Co-sleeping, ext bfing AP type pregnant again - how does it work with two?!

[Feedtheducks]

We fell into an AP type of parenting for DD - hadn't heard of it before we had her and it was really DD who decided as she had to be held all day (so slings) and wouldn't sleep in a moses (so co-sleeping.) As it turned out it really suited us and we've loved it. Now I'm pg again I just can't quite imagine how what is I guess quite an intense parenting style works with more than one child. Can anyone tell me or suggest useful books?

I'm starting to worry dd will be insanely jealous of a newborn and need some inspiration to start thinking creatively on this.

We're thinking of moving dd into her own room (Surely a toddler would be woken by a co-sleeping newborn?) but is it better for rivalry to keep her in our bed? (there's time to make changes without her associating them with a new baby)

I guess I'm just experiencing normal pre-match nerves - this is a very much wanted pg and I DO want sibling(s) for her but feel anxious about changing things when life is very good. All this is obviously heightened by pg hormones but wondered if anyone had specific advice with the slant of this parenting style?

Thanks

comforting tale much appreciated bedlam! how old was your ds when no 2 came along? did you do anything special to prepare him for the arrival?

i'm on my 3rd and have gotton even more AP with each successive child

dd was 18 months when ds1 was born and it all went really well, no jealousy and she didn't like the crowded bed too much so stopped asking to come in in the night and just comes in for a moring cuddle now

ds1 is 2.5 now and we've just had ds2 and again all has gone really well... no jealousy despite ds1 being quite clingy and insisting he's a baby too and neither he nor dd are bothered about ds2 being in my arms 24/7 , they just seem to accept it and shower him with cuddles and affection.

i think in a way doing AP and natural term breastfeeding boosts their confidance and makes them a lot more secure so they don't see the baby as a threat, just as a new person to be loved by the whole family

Read Siblings Without Rivalry (same authors as how to talk...)

AP is supposed to be fab with two - you can use the sling to be having close time with no2 while playing with or helping no1. Referring to the baby as "no1's new baby" helps too. Did you manage to bf in the sling last time, because that would help too.

THanks everyone this is very reassuring. Yes I managed to feed in sling last time and imagine dc2 living in sling all day as it will be october so i won't worry about overheating like i did last time. I think the idea of making it No1's baby is good, and getting ideas from her on how to help.

had dr sears written anything on this do you know?