Have done a LOT wrong in the past 24 hours-please come and rub my back and tell me how to do this better if it ever happens again(involves d & v if you are squeamish!)

[Pawslikepaddington]

I have a tummy bug, but wasn't totally aware of my tummy bug until 20 mins in to a 4 hour drive home last night (have had soft stools and a shifting tummy for a few days, but that is usually stress).

So, there was just a (sleeping) dd and myself in the car-I had to pull on to the hard shoulder three times to be sick, each time soiling myself at the same time, then sitting in it until I FINALLY reached a service station 52 miles later. I then had to lock dd in the car while I cleaned up in the petrol station toilet, and repeat x 3.

So I finally got home, with an extra 3 hours added on to the journey racked with guilt for leaving dd unattended in a car three times, for 20 mins each time while I used the bathroom, changed my trousers etc.

Then today I fell asleep on the bathroom floor and missed picking dd up from school!! I had set an alarm just in case and not heard it. The school have the right phone number for me, but for some reason it didn't work, and so they ended up ringing my dad 200 miles away, to get him to ring me, to go and get her. I am so ashamed. I have never left her in the car to pay for petrol, and am now rapidly veering into the realms of neglect! Oh god!!

Fallen off active convo's already-gosh!!

is that all????

Hope you're feeling better now

you are SUCH a bad mother. Hear that knocking on the door - it's the Mumsnet Posse, coming to...

...bring you a big bunch of flowers and say 'poor you' and 'fgs stop being so hard on yourself' and stuff like that.

Urgh. Horrible experience. Don't feel the need to share it again, please...

you poor thing
that is some tummy bug you must have had or still have
hope dd doesn't get it and you are feeling better
shame you didn't still have achild in nappies

You poor thing! None of this is your fault! You sound very ill! When you don't have kids you can just lie on the sofa and recuperate, but these days you're not allowed the luxury of being ill! It sucks. Hope you feel better soon.

oh god you must feel dreadful
what a horrible experience - and how well you coped with the difficult journey
have you any help for tomorrow? you have obviously been very ill indeed and need to rest and recover

Poor you!! I hope you're feeling better. I think that generally being a parent involves doing the best you can that day, and i don't think you could have done it any differently. Bad luck with the school run, meh, it happens. If it helps my dd fell head first off the sofa the other day and landed in a waste paper basket where she was wedged! (wasn't funny at the time)

awwww you're not well
don't beat yourself up
you managed really well to just get home last night.
Anyone you can call on to give you some help tomorrow?

You sound like you were pretty ill,and this made you have to "put yourself first",you made your DD as safe as you could under these extreme circumstances.If you were well,you wouldn't have left her,you know you wouldn't.Don't beat yourself up about it.

Luckily she was ok,and you both made it home safe.

The school thing is probably something we all dread,and nearly do at times,again you were ill..

In hindsight you probably should have turned round and gone back after you realised you were unwell.Try to always have a friends number that can help you at times like this,you'd do the same for them.It helps to have an "Emergency" contact.They could have collected DD from school maybe,or rang you to make sure you were ok.

You aren't Superwoman,when you are ill you cannot cope alone,and I'm sure your friends would be only too glad to help you.

Thank you all-I nibbled at a pain au chocolat this evening-felt I had earned it!! Sorry about sharing it, but I have never done anything so vile in my life, and couldn't keep it to myself, but at the same time didn't feel right telling my dad! All jeans are now on a boil wash, and if they shrink so be it!! I must admit, I have a new found respect for small babies and very ill people in hospital-poor mites. Tomorrow is all cancelled-everyone has been so lovely-there is a bad bug going round apparently. Dd totally fine-she gets the bugs that everyone else is immune to, and all the mega parental flattening jobs just totally pass her by! Was tempted to buy nappies actually, but didn't fancy handing over any cash to the poor guy in the petrol station, and him catching a glimpse of my trousers under my arm!!

We had been on a weekend away, so were driving home-we couldn't have stayed any longer as had already given the keys in (although was v tempted to for over half of the journey!

School were so lovely-they had to deal with me sobbing my heart out on them. And another (habitually late) mum sauntered in 5 mins later to pick her little girl up (this was 4pm, school finishes at 3.20!!!) with no apology!

And it has made me triple check all contact details and emergency numbers, which is good. Three friends have offered to rally round tomorrow, and dd is totally unphased bless her. I feel better now I have shared my gruesome encounter, thank you!!