My 6 year old still wets the bed at night and wants to go back into night pants help!

[Julesnobrain]

My DS was potty trained at about 3 I think and I waited until I thought he was ready for no nappies at night. That moment never came, he would still wet himself although wearing night pants. He is now 6 1/2. I have now had my third attempt at getting him dry at night but to no avail. It's made worse by the fact by DD aged 2 1/2 is dry at night and in the day now! I have tried restricting drinks at night and night lifting to the toilet. Can anybody suggest anything else. Also I know boys are later than girls but I'm worried this is not 'normal' all my friends sons are all dry by now. Any advice gratefully received.

Hi I don't know much about this but I beleive that if children aren't dry at night by 7 yrs old (or it mmay be 8) your GP will refer them to an enuerisis clinic (sp?) I had a frind whose son wasn't dry by the time he was 7 despite repeated attempts. She wasn't surprised though as two of her stepsons and her dh all had problems and didn't become dry until almost their teens. One of her dss's took drugs to help t the age of 13 so that nights away were not embarassing.

her son was sorted out with a night alarm, it took a couple of months and was quite stressful but it worked in the end.

I think the child needs to want to do it though. My friend's son wanted to be dry in time for a trip away wtith the school when he was 7/8 years old.

You still have a little way to go before he is this age but I would not try and get him dry if he is getting too stressed by it. Give it a few more months, it may all click then but if it doesn't work then it may be worth speaking to your GP.

It is not something you can teach - it is a physical thing. Look here for more info and be comforted - you are not alone! It just isn't something most mothers will talk about in the playgorund!!

Thanks I have just looked on the ERIC website. I really appreciate your advice. I think I shall discuss with DS getting an alarm, we'll see the main thing is for us both to know it's normal and OK. Am v relieved.

'sokay. Ds is 5 (nearly 6) and we are in the same boat....

Don't restrict drinks until one hour before bed, and don't lift him at night. Lifting just promotes the "wee whilst you're asleep" message to the brain.

Night wetting at 6.5 isn't unusual at all. If he's happy in pull-ups and it saves a wet bed and stress then you can try leaving him in them for another 6-12 months and see if he becomes dry naturally. If he is unhappy wearing pull-ups then you can try various things for nighttime dryness. The main thing to realise is that often if the child is comfortable in pull-ups and not overly bothered by being wet at night, then change can be difficult. Unless the child is motivated to be dry, achieving dryness is unlikely.

What he needs to try is:

*Drink 6-8 good sizes drinks in the day.
*Toileting every 2 hours, especially on waking and do the 3Ts at bedtime - toilet, teeth, toilet. This helps train and tone the bladder.
Stop wearing pull-ups.
If he needs a wee in the night he must get up and go.
*If he sleeps through being wet then he may benefit from an alarm.
*If he wees massive amounts especially early in the night (ie within 2-4 hours of bedtime) then he may need desmopressin from the GP.

my daughter will be 7 in 2 months and still wets the bed every night,i have tried lifting her out but read all the advice against this so stopped.i have tried restricting fluids before bedtime, i have tried giving her extra fluid (as an article i read stated that if the body doesnt have enough fluid it will hold in to every bit it gets then when muscles relax whilst asleep it releases it)i have tried settin an alarm clock and waking her at intervals durin the night which didnt work but just resulted in tired child (and mum). It's geting really hard now, she wont wear pull ups or pajama pant as she is s big girl and my youngest is 3 and has been dry day and night since 23 months. so my 6 yr old is getting embarrased. she is not lazy she goes into such a deep sleep that even when she wets she still doesnt wake and will continue to sleep through til morn.some mornings i go to check her and she is dry but by the time she wakes maybe 10mins later she has wet whilst waking. please help!!