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2 year old keeps getting hurt i cant keep him safe

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fernie3 · 02/03/2009 14:21

My son is 28 months old. I have three children and he is the only one I seem to struggle with.
He is not a bad child he is affectionate BUT he is so demanding and so accident prone I feel like i cant keep him safe half the time.

I have an older daughter and never felt like this with her.

He wont listen to me when I tell him not to do something, i have tried many different types of punishement s AND rewards but nothing seems to come close to bothering him let alone working. For example my daughter has to sit on the stairs for a few mintues when she is naughty which works great with her. Put my son on the stairs and he will go sit on the stairs and then do the exact same thing again 2 minutes after he has got up! he doesnt even get upset and being in trouble.

He is ALWAYS hurting himself which is the major problem - he runs around like a mad thing but he runs striaght into things and is always falling over and hitting his head. He wont sit still at all, he wont play with his toys, he wont watch tv he wont play with his sister without hitting her. He doesnt speak very clearly although this is coming on a bit now he can say roughly 30 words now but most of them are pretty unclear. He has this things about hitting his head on your lap he will just hit his head onto your lap for some reason. and he is still putting everything into his mouth even though he seems to old for this now.

I feel like i try my best to keep him safe (we have 4 safety gates, cupboard locks fridge locks etc etc but its just never good enough,

just a few examples of what has happened to him are :

drinking weed killer (locked cupboard he managed to prise the lock of in the time it took me to take his sister up to her cot)
cut his head open the floor
huge gash on his cheek
burned face
many many many minor injuries
choked twice once he was blue not breathing

this is just a few of the things! he has been to casualty more times than the rest of the family put togethr - my other children have never been injured like this,

I dont know what to do i feel like i really cant keep him safe - even in the playroom where he is gated in with nothing but toys he manages to hurt himself or hurt someone else

he gets in trouble at nursery for his behaviour

the health visitor is coming to see him next week to do his check, i dont know what is in it but i am not overly concerned with his development just his behaviour so i dont see how that will help

It drives me mad because everyday i am just trying to keep him happy but i seem to always fail and end up with another problem or a tantrum or an injury. My other children dont get the attention he does because i am always trying ti keep an eye on him.

I really want to be able to do nice things with him but he just wont sit and do them

sophie

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HSMM · 02/03/2009 14:32

Tell the HV everything. There may be an underlying condition that she could identify. Otherwise she will be able to give you all sorts of helpful advice and information.

nannyL · 02/03/2009 19:18

apart from drinking weedkiller all the otehr minor injuries are normal and thing that happen to all over

they fall over
it hurts
next 100 times later they learn and are more careful

choking isnt something that can be easily helped either... my charge choked properly aged 35 months (really scared me) but ultimatley that is whta happend sometimes
I chocked age 24 on a tomatoe... and now am more careful with tomatoes.

personally i dont think wrapping them up in cotton wool is the answer... let them fall over, and be calm and just laugh, say opps and tell them to get up, and dont fuss and they soon eventually learn.if you are worried they are likely to cry!

so long as they dont have access to dangerouse things, like knifes / scissors / tools etc they should be ok and learn for themselves.

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