How do i get my DS to poo?

[xmummy]

My 2yr 8month old DS has done really well on potty training and has been dry for 1.5 weeks. However he wont poo in the potty and does it in his pants, even if we catch him mid flow or just about to start he denies it.

He has done poos on the potty lots of times when we were getting him used to it, but now he is properly potty trained he just wont do it.

Does anyone have any advice? Should I try specific rewards different to what we give for wees (those are being phased out now). Or is there something else I can try.

Many thanks

gaining control of the bowels comes later than cotrol of the bladder

2yr and 8 months is still very young to have control of the bowels

don't worry, it will come

but being over anxious and expecting too much too young can have consequences, like deliberatly holding it in, or refusing to use the loo or still soiling when at school

my advice would be to use the pull-ups until he gains more control, or you will spend you life washing out pooey pants!

if he goes at a regular time you could try sitting him on the potty then

but personally I would wait until he actually tells you he needs a poo, because at this young age he really ndoesn't know yet

thanks for the message of advice. It is weird as he does understand when he is pooing, but doesn't want to do it and says as such and now tells us when he wants to do a wee about every 2-3 hours so i think he is getting it, but I am worried more if he is embarrassed or whether it is just a normal stage of potty training.

He is fairly regular, but just seems to skulk off when it is poo time, so it is difficult. I don't want to put him in pull ups as he is doing so well in pants and I can cope with the mess short term.

Maybe as you say I just have to give it time and go with the flow.

I have bought special stickers and promised that tomorrow if he does poos in the potty at nursery (he goes 3 days per week), I will let him have a cake for desert at tea time - he is very excited by this - so fingers crossed.

If anyone has any other thoughts I would love to hear - thanks

bumping for any advice as am having the same prob with DD1 - 3.3 yrs...??

also bumping as dd is exactly the same. she is pretty perfect with wee's but in the last month has only manged about half a dozen poos on the potty/toilet the rest just in her knickers. she also seems to know when she is doing it, but just refuses to use toilet

help!

Hi, as you posted last week, hopefully this is all sorted now - but in case.....

About a month after DD2 had been potty trained and reliably clean and dry she developed and AWFUL tummy bug and had non stop diaorrhea for about 5 days. Once it had cleared up she would not poo in the loo. She would sneak off and hide and poo in her pants, then cry. Like you, as I knew she could do it, and also as she remained completely reliable for wees, I was reluctant to put her back into nappies. It does sound to me as if your DS has control of his bowels - if he's skulking off and hiding to do it (as my DD was) then yes - he has control!

In the end what worked for me was a total no comment approach (for the first 10 days after her illness I'd been constantly asking 'do you need a poo', 'lets sit on the loo' etc etc and after an accident saying things such as 'next time please tell mummy the poo is coming', or 'where should poo go - in the loo' etc etc). This clearly wasn't working so I gritted my teeth and stopped all comment about it and stopped asking her if she needed to go. After each accident I calmly cleaned her up and restricted myself to saying 'never mind, better luck next time'. Also I got a packet of her favourite chocolate (I had phased out rewards for wees some time earlier) and put it very visibly on a high shelf above the loo and told her that when she did a poo in the loo she could have it, but I didn't go on about it - just told her the once then left it in sight. Two days of this approach and she calmly announced one morning 'I need a poo' did it and that was that - not a single accident since.

I think maybe I was pressuring her too much. She didn't want to have accidents but was finding it stressful and once I removed that stress she seemed to take control of it herself. Maybe worth a go?

Same problem!
DD is great for wees and has stayed dry alomost since day 3 of training. We've been training for a week now.

When she has to poo she says mommy gotta potty mommy go have bath ( because she doesnt mind pooing in the bath) so I say no we cant have a bath till night ngiht time and she gets all ants in her pants when she has to go. One time she was in the bath and she was like MOMMY GOTTA POTTY and she was making pump bubbles so I got her out and dried her bum and sat her on her potty and she sobbed a little BUT did poo...

Are kids embarrased by it? or think its a part of them and dont want to let go.
We do the whole when she poos take it in the potty and say thats where it goes not in pants ew yuck dirty pants. Shes clever and I know she knows where poo goes and Shes a VERY VERY strong willed child so I'm not sure whats going on....
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Also I got the super nany HOW TO GET THE BEST FROM YOUR KIDS and she says its either nappies or pants.. no need for inbetween pull up as its pointless and can be confusing. so once in pants stay in pants. - jo frost says.

If any of you moms find a thread anywhere else or info on the web about this can you post the link for all to see if you'r also looking elsewhere for answers.
THANKS