Can anyone help with discipline for an 18m old?

[littleboysblue]

Hi.
My ds is 18 months, he is very lively and very noisy which I don't really mind.
He isn't talking very well yet which makes communication a bit difficult but I know he understands most of the things I tell him.

Like any other toddler, he likes to shout and stamp about, fine, he also likes to throw his toys around, push things off tables, climb over everything and all other normal bangings and bashings.
I also now have a 3 week old ds who is very uncomfortable with trapped wind so it takes a while to feed him and get enough wind up.

I am finding it very difficult to find enough time to give ds1 the attention he needs whilst I am seeing to an unhappy newborn. I know it will all settle down as ds1 was also a 'difficult' baby.
I have spent all morning shouting for him to stop throwing stop hitting baby, stop screeching etc.
What can I do to try to teach him that he can't do all these things?

Please somebody help! My parents are saying I should give ds1 a little tap on the hand when he hits baby, but don't think I want to do that. I'm really struggling today (just lack of sleep though I think) and it's not fair to really shout at an 18mo, I really don't know what to do.

Apart from go to bed now as they are both asleep.

Go to bed now!

Am sure you'll get some useful replies. If you don't, bump it later

Not sure you can discipline an 18 month old, the only thing that works for us is distraction, but obviously that's very hard with a newborn in tow.

Don't be afraid to use sneaky tactics to get you through the next few weeks. Yes it's not ideal but cbeebies, new toys, new books, interesting snacks, simple tasks, plenty of visitors, and if you can get someone to take him to playgroup for you so you get an hour or two alone with your new baby that'd do you both the world of good too, sometimes a change of scene is all they need.

Sometimes it pays to be inventive: strip him off and stick him in a bath full of toys in the middle of the afternoon if needs be, or stick a load of duvets and pillows on the floor so he can go burrowing, let him rummage in the kitchen cupboards, or find him some cardboard boxes to play in.

It must be very hard, but it can only get easier as time goes on, try to focus on that and accept all help offered.

i agree...distracion is key. my 18mo is the same and am due ds2 soon. discipline at this age is hard. they dont know they are being 'naughty' and certainly arent doing it on purpose. he is probably also struggling with not being centre of your world any more (or at least, having to now share the centre spot).
just accept all help you can for the next few weeks. be selfish. have you spoken to yr HV about how your feeling? my friend was given a few hours a week with a community HV/nurse who visited her once a week to check how she was, help around house, take dc's out for a walk so she could sleep. her dh worked away a lot, and she was finding it tough (think she has a 12month age gap too!)
dont struggle on. if you feel you cant do it on your own, you need to ask for help sooner than later.
anyway, hope you're not reading this, because you're fast asleep! and if you're not asleep...you should be!...try for an early night! things'll probably seem better after some sleep. lots of love*

Thanx.
Discipline was maybe too strong a word to use wasn't it? Maybe deal with and cope is a better way to put it.
Just had bad few nights really so am feeling it all through lack of sleep.