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v. messy dd1 (9) with severe house dustmite allergy - help!

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geekgirl · 27/02/2009 15:10

Dd1 is an extremely messy child. She leaves a trail of mess, to the extent that she has to be reminded to close drawers and cupboard doors. She manages to trash her room within a day or two by leaving drawing stuff and dirty clothes all over the place, and filling her bed with books.
It's been a source of irritation for some time but I've kind of just put up with it - it's her room and her mess.
However - she has suffered with chronic rhinitis and now also asthma for a couple of years now. She's had a lot of allergy tests done and has been diagnosed with hayfever and a severe house dustmite allergy. I had suspected as much and have done all the usual stuff such as removing curtains, getting new bedding etc. but really, I should be able to vacuum her room every day and damp dust twice a week. At present it's just not possible, unless I spend 20-30 mintues tidying up her crap. We've spoken about this a zillion times, she doesn't get pocket money if her room is messy (so she chooses to go without!) but tbh I can't think of any bloody way of getting her to keep her room tidy anymore.

I should have done it today but I just get too pissed off with it all. She can't even manage to chuck her dirty laundry just outside her door instead of all over the floor. I impose sanctions such as no friends over if her room's a mess, and she'd still rather put up with that than tidy up. I need to get a grip on it - it's so detrimental to her health. Please give me some ideas!

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TheProvincialLady · 27/02/2009 15:23

Tell her that any stuff on her floor or in her bed etc will be put in a black bin liner in the loft. It sounds like she will very quickly have no stuff to use and no clothes to wear - then make her earn them back, starting with clothes, by washing them herself (with your help obv) and putting them away under your supervision.

It sounds like you will have to be pretty harsh but if her health is at risk I guess it must be done.

geekgirl · 27/02/2009 16:00

that's a good idea - had shied away from the black binliner approach because I kept thinking I'd have to threaten to throw stuff away - which I'd obviously never be able to go through with. Hadn't thought of threatening to put it in the loft.

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