I'm ringing Parentline later

[Nabster]

I can guess what they will say but I just don't have the energy to put it into practice.

what's up? (sory don't know your situation)

What;s Parentline? Are you OK?

Sorry, had to deal with tantruming 3 year old but he is now sleeping.

Parentline is a helpline for anyone to ring for help.

I have 4 massive issues to deal with at the moment and don't know what to tackle first. Only one of them is child related.

Are they issues you would feel comfortable discussing here?
I'm perfectly willingto listen, although I can't guarantee i'll be able to give advice.

Thanks but I can't.

ok - hope you work out your issues soon the

Haven't had chance to ring them. Got some jobs done.

The 3 year old has just shouted at me and laughed at his isster as she fell and hurt herself. He is turning into a very defiant little boy which is a shock as my other 2 were not like this at 3.

Nabster, do you have any children's centres locally? Ring them tomorrow and talk to a parent support advisor. They can help with just about anything, it seems. Including free parenting classes (with creche)

We don't seem to have any facilities. We didn't even get ante natal clases with number 2 even though she was our first baby in the area and wanted to make friends. Seems like once your children are past a certain age you are expected to know what to do.

I just feel so sad at the moment as it is so clear to me that with my background I shouldn't have had children.

nabster - if you need to meet for a cuppa and just a friendly chat (no need to divulge issues) then I'm happy to do that. (I know you're not too far from me.)

That would be great. Maybe next week or is that too soon?

next weeks is fine - I'm on mat leave so have plenty of tome to spare I would have to bring DS along with me.

How old is your DS?

He's 5 months old.
oh - I should warn you we've been in contact with a baby with measles, but all seems fine with us, but if you'd rather wait a bit in light o that it's fine.

Do you mind if I check with DH? DS has had some jabs and is due another and I don't want to cause an issue with that, I am not sure of the time.

no problem - just let me know.

Dh wonders when you were in contact with the poorly child?

Nabster, I called ParentlinePlus on Monday. They were very calming and helpful. They also have a service whereby they call you once a week to talk about what tactics have worked and what haven't and to generally support you.

DS was kicking, flailing, poked me in the eye, pinching, flinging his toys about. He usually just does one of those things at a time. He was like a child possessed and he rules our house. We're all so nervous, waiting for his next rage. I lost it. I need help too. I knew parenting was meant to be hard but it feels like I'm dealing with a child who has mental health issues - he's so angry and defiant and full of rage and violence. He's not yet 4. I'm not equipped to deal with this.

Call them. They help even if they are just listening. Good luck.

I will ring them. Worried I might cry about other stuff so I might need to sort that first.

Nabster last time I saw her was last thursday. Her rash came out the following day. We usually see her once a week.

I cried. They're used to it. It helps a lot.

How are you feeling today Nabster?

Courtesy of DS2 I am in a lot of pain but I am going to self medicate with chocolate.

Have a whole heap of tidying to do so that will keep me busy and I will just remember that DH and I are going away tomorrow.

Going to ring Parentline if I can pluck up the courage.

Thank you

my friend called them when she was feeling quite despairing about her child's behaviour, she found them very helpful and supportive.

Yes - call them, get things off your chest.
Good to see a smile in your post? (that really looks odd in type )