Does your dc perk up early evening even if they've been tired in the middle of the day?

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OK help me settle a ridiculous argument with dh.

Today (and several other times) ds (age three)was quite grouchy and seemed tired in the middle of the day (whingier than normal, yawning and stretching a few times etc.) He also didn't wake up until he heard me at around 8am (went to bed at 8ish last night but had late night sat night - 9pm (!) due to meal out that went wrong!)

By the time dh got home from work ds had perked up and was his usual lively self.

So I said to dh that I think ds needed to go to bed earlier today as he seemed particularly tired today.

DH refused to believe me (as he does every time this happens) and said he didn't seem tired.

It just bugs me as it's like he can't just listen and respect my view when I was with him in the day and he wasn't.

Just because he doesn't seem tired by the evening doesn't mean to me that he doesn't need to go to bed 30 mins or whatever early.

Maybe this should be in AIBU??

Any views?

Is he still napping in the day? Because some of my friends with DCs that don't nap in the day, report the same thing - a quiet/sleepy sort of phase in the afternoon and then they perk up again.

They do still need to go to bed early though because its a long day for them when they don't have naps

I've also found with DS, if we don't set his sleep cues - change into PJs, bedtime bottle etc, he will run around until he's in meltdown!

Hi
No he gave up the nap about a year ago (can't quite remember).

I have a sleepy phase at that time of day sometimes I must say!

I just feel like I'm banging my head against a brick wall with dh trying to get this point across to him.

But if he doesn't see ds tired with his own eyes he won't believe me.

My children are always exhausted about 5 pm and then perk up at 7pm (bedtime is usually 7.30 or 8)

So in this situation, where they liven up later, would you put dcs to bed earlier?

Yes.

Otherwise we end up with children who are two tired to get up and ready for school in the morning and even more tired the following evening.

too tired

Mine always perk up after dinner with the rush of calories - doesn't mean that they don't need to go to bed at a good time though.

But early rather than on time Hannahsaunt?

Does mean early sometimes if earlier behaviours mean that I know that they are tired.

'perking up' often means 'over tired' in young children.