How often does your 3 month baby wake up at night!!

[sleepyandtired]

I am soooooo tired,

My 3 month ds goes to bed by 6.30pm and usually sleeps till 12 ( in that respect, i know im lucky) has a bottle. Then wakes up every two hours!
is this normal, does it get better!! i can't rememember how is it was my first ds, who is two now. I always so sleepy.
It will get better one day.

sounds normal to me my ds was every 2 hrs from going to sleep which wasn't until about 8 then 2 hours there on

think by 6 mths it was twice a night by 8 mths once a night by 9 mths he was all the way through with a dream feed

Very normal. What do you do when he wakes? At that age ds1 still had a feed at about 2 and again about 4 - night feeds though, low lights (if any) no noise and straight back into bed. I would carry on going with the flow, he's still very tiny. Started to change for us when we started weaning at about months (not recommended til 6 months these days).

You could try a dream feed between 10 and 11, might help to take him through til the 4am feed, that worked well for us too.

I usually feed him, with dim lights, talking, etc at 12am feed, then at 2pm i just sush and pat him and about 4 am i feed him again!
If it sounds normal then i will persevere

Mine goes to bed at 8, sleeps through till between 2-4, has a feed...& then, like you, is up every hour. If I can't get him settled by 5, he's up for the day!

Mine goes sleep at 11pm and wakes between 7-9am. He is bf and feeds every 2 hours in the day. He didn't sleep at all at night for 2 months but just suddenly started. He loves his hammock bed though and if he stirs it rocks him back to sleep. He also has a dummy sometimes .

maybe 6.30pm is too early for bedtime? Most of you seem to have later bedtimes.

put him down when you go to sleep so that his big chunk of sleep coo-incides with yours and you'll be more rested.

just have nap at 6.30 and wake after hour or so.

then you can bring bedtime forward as he sleeps longer.

Yeah.....thats does sound good, but the thing is i love the fact that both my toddler and baby are in bed by 6.30pm and i have the evening to relax a bit. As it can get really tiring during the day and my dh is away is often.

Tough choice, relax in the evening or sleep more at night!!

My 18wk old goes to bed at 6pm. Has done since she was 8wks old. It seems very early now the evenings are lighter! But it works for us.

We tried treating it as a nap and waking her but it made no difference to her night waking or what time she was up in the morning so 6pm it is for us! She now sleeps roughly 6pm - 2am then a bottle and back down til 5am, another feed and off til 7ish. I'm just enjoying the peaceful evenings while they last!

DS was the same btw.

dems the breaks, sleepy.

i choose sleep but it's not forever. slowly move the time forward until they're going to bed early and you have your evening back.

i think i prefer a break in the evenings.What i will do though is go to bed earlier. I normally sleep after his 12am feed as i didn't want to go to bed earlier and wake up after a hour to feed him.
So now i will aim to be asleep by 10pm! So at least i get two more hours sleep.

I don't think 6.30's too early either, we NEED our evenings, sometimes I work, others we have time together, others we get the house work done, that way it doesn't encroach too much on family time.

Ds1 still goes to bed about 6.30-7pm at 4.5 years. Some nights he plays for ages and will finally go to sleep between 9 and 10, other nights he'll be asleep well before 7.
DS2 goes to bed at 6.30, is usually asleep before 7 and wakes between 7.30 and 8am (depending on what time ds1 is up). He's 15 months now.

Pheebe- when you say your ds1 sometimes plays for ages. Does he stay his room or does he come out and play around the house?

As my ds1 is also showing signs of this, do you have an agreement that he can as long as he is his room?

As my 3 month ds2, i shall try and sleep earlier and hope he soon has longer sleep periods.

The 'rule' (as much as we have rules about this) is that he stays in his room. We have his light on a timer which goes off about 8 I think. If he's not asleep already (which he often is), that's his cue to start settling down. He isn't allowed to come down and start getting toys out or watch tele but he does have various toys in his room now - a few cars, colouring books and pencils, loads of story books, a wooden fire station - all quiet toys that encourage his imagination.

He does sometimes come down to us for various 'reasons'. We just shepherd him back to bed and settle him again. For us its important that he goes to bed happy and that he learns his own sleep cues but we do set boundaries and its not acceptable for him to still be awake at 10pm say.

mines another one that goes at 6:30pm - which I LOVE the thought that he will be asleep at this time keeps my energy levels up throughout the afternoon.

I dreamfeed him at 10:30pm before I go to bed - he then wakes at 2am but then goes back down till 7am.

BUT Ive met ppl whos babies at this age sleep the whole night through and then I feel crap.

Remember there is always someones baby that sleeps better than yours and theres always somesones baby who sleeps worse.

DD used to have her long sleep from 7pm ish, to 12/1am, then was a nightmare to get settled and back to sleep as she just wasnt tired anymore, and then woke up very half hour to an hour, til 5am then used to sleep til half 6, at this age. She had a sore bum one day, so i woke her up at 10pm to change her nappy, and give her a quick feed, and that was the first night she slept through. Needless to say we woke her up every night at 10pm for nappy change and quick feed til recently when shes been weaned, and shes always slept through from 10.30pm before this, plus she still tired, so settling her is easy.

By 3 months, both my kids would be going to sleep in a moses basket in the living room about 7.30pm, sleep until I woke them at 10pm , last BF and/or bottle top up, then up to cot in own dark room where they slept through the night until I got them up at 7.30am. Both mine started sleeping through the night from 11 - 7.30 by 7 weeks. But I was very much a routine mum, and it worked a treat for my kids. Both were BF with expressed milk top-ups if needed until over a year old.

dd - asleep by six thirty dream feed at my bed time then awake two ish for feed then til six if good night. memory hazier for this one cos she's now three.
ds - now three months - has sort of nap from six thirty til eight ish then awake til we go to bed. won't then wake til seven on good day four ish if growth spurt. Has had long (seven hours plus) sleep at night since he found his thumb at seven weeks. both dd and ds had nothing but breastmilk
However - just cos they sleep through when babies doesn't mean they will when toddlers - dd toddles on to us most nights!! So don't panic if it's bad or be smug if it's good!

Thanks all for your replies,

I had a goodnight last night, my ds slept from 6.30pm to 2.30 am!!!! then woke up again at 6am. I feel so rested.

Lets hope it continues.......

We started a bedtime 'routine' with dd at 8 weeks. Bath, bottle then bed by 7 - woken up for dream feed at 10.30. The first few nights she was up 5/6 a.m. but for the last three weeks she has slept through until around 7. She is 4 months now. Before the 'routine' she was going to bed at about 9/10 with us and up 2/3 times during the night and about 8 in the morning. We were exhausted. Having the evening to ourselves now has saved mine and DH's sanity and now she sleeps longer we have much more energy to entertain her during the day. She is also in her own room now as I woke up with every snuffle and snort she made during the night (DH slept through all that!!)

Hopefully your good nights will continue. It makes all the difference to how you manage during the day. A happy, rested mum and dad is best for baby!!

I go to bed at 8pm at least once a week. Makes a HUGE difference. Feels a bit odd though.

Can't do it on Sunday (Lost 9pm) Monday (2nd Corrie episode 8.30pm) Tues (Holby 8pm) or Friday (Corrie again) so it's usually Wed or Thur . Sad or what. I'd tape them but would never get chance to watch them. lol

back to waking every two hours

My 3 mth old DD dozes in her bouncer downstairs with us from 7-ish until about 9/10pm, then sleeps pretty solidly for a good 8 hour stretch, so until 5/6am. Then has a bottle and then back to sleep until 9/10am. She sleeps loads during the day, too. She is a sleepy baby, really.

My DS was very different at that age. Would sleep 7pm-midnight in his cot, but then was fussy and awake every 2 hrs after that and once he was awake at about 6am-ish he wouldn't go back to sleep for ages. Hardly napped during the day, too. I was shattered all the time, if I remember rightly.

I also go to bed very early these days, usually with DD at 9-ish.

Should say at 9/10pm we change and feed her and bring her up with us.