Is it normal to like one of your DC more than the rest?

[SweetCheeksLovesSweetTalk]

I only have one at the moment so have no experience of this, but I was talking to a friend who said she liked her youngest ds more than her eldest as they just 'clicked'. She made it clear she loves them both and I know she is a very good mum to both of them.

This set me wondering is this normal for everyone?

my dd is in a very cute little phase at the moment (age 2.5) -everything she does is so unaffected and endearing. ds by comparison is a stroppy 4 year old - so at times it is hard to be even handed.

think it's just a phase though - i don't love/like one more than the other on a permanent basis.....

Yes it is. Of course it's normal. They aren't clones of each other but individuals who act and think differently.

As long as you love them all and show it.

It's much easier now mine are older. If one of them is being particularly vile on one day and gets told off a lot, you can bet that the next day the other one will beat them hands down so it works out equitably in the end

I'll be totally honest here:

I think I love my children differently, but not more than each other, if that makes sense? For example, I was a single parent when pregnant with dd1 until she was 10 months old- so we have a very special bond. I feel very proud of all of her achievements because she didn't have a convential start to life and had to adapt to nursery as a very young baby etc. But, she is also my most beautiful daughter (sorry if that offends anyone, she is pretty, dd2 is not so much.) I feel very proud to be seen with dd1. BUT, her behaviour is often very challenging, and she is not what you could describe as an 'easy child'.She can behave horrifically on occassions.

Dd2 on the other hand is a dream child. Has always slept through the night, eats everything and everything. Is super advanced for her age in various areas- like her talking. SIL is a speech therapist and tells me all the time how she cannot believe dd2 is only 20 months as she has full conversations with strangers! BUT, as I've mentioned, she's no real oil painting. People stop me in the street to comment on dd1's 'gorgeous' hair, but often overlook dd2 completely. Either that, or they call her a boy. Dd2 is also not very loving- she doesn't come for cuddles and likes her independence, unlike her big sister. I'm fiercely protective of dd2 too because she was takn into SCBU as a baby and things were very touch and go with her, so I'm proud of her for being a fighter, and will always fight her corner.

So there you go- love them in a different way, but neither one more than the other. If I had to pick my favourite personality- it would change on an hourly basis !!

It is strange, I love all my kids to bits, dd1 is 7 is the loveliest little girl always eager to please, but we are so alike we clash all the time,
ds is 5 and as I often say I could eat him, hes a wee dote but hes so laid back I could throttle him,
dd2 is 2.3 and as someone else said athat verycute stage and is so different from the other two at that age I am in awe of her, although she is also a very bossy and stubborn little madam

So as Ormirian says it all evens out, although I think in some families they're can be favourites and its horrible,
my gran had favourites it was awful

It seemed strange to me TBH

Maybe she didn't explain it very well, sometimes you prob find your getting along ge=reat with one and constantly telling the other one off etc, but it dosen't be long switching the other way

swings and roundabouts

Def did feel one child was my special fav, but now love them all equally. Had to address prob as it was causing backlash and bother to give special love to other two, then hey presto they became very lovable too. So I do think having favourites creates a negative feedback loop and you have to be watchful. It's actually not difficult to find some special bond with each child but sometimes you have to bother to look.