Help! I am a bad bad mummy :o(

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Am SO stressed out today. Am supposed to be working from home, have DS's here (9 and 5), am 32 weeks preg, have loads of washing and housework, am having a rare rare rare night out tonight to a friends house party so I need to bath kids, prepare tea etc for the DS's.

DS's got up early, couldn't be quite for 5 mins so now I have a headache. Got DS1 to make his bed but DS2 kept throwing the covers back off. Then they were chasing each other around the house literally screaming at the top of their voices, jumping on things as they went, driving me insane. So I shut DS1 in his room, stuck DS2 in the bath and went to sort washing out. They cried and screamed they wanted to go in together, I ignored, feeling my BP rising. I got DS2 out who then had went mad because he wanted to get dressed in DS1's room. I ignored him. He punched me. I told DS1 to get in the bath. Ds2 started screaming he's hungry. I told him to wait 5 mins til DS2 was out of the bath and I would make him lunch. so he started screaming for Nintendo and telling me i couldn't tell him what to do!

I really am at the end of my tether I need to be careful because I have previously had pre-eclampsia so I need to not get too stressed.

I have taken them out every day of this holiday and this is the first day we have stayed in. I really don't know what is wrong with them (or me), they're not usually like this.

Just needed to vent!

Is it absolutely essential for you to do some work from home today? If so is there anyway your ds's can go out (to a friends or wherever) just for an hour or two.

The whole situation sounds really stressful. How can you get some space? Would they go out in garden/play on Nintendo/watch dvd or whatever? Or could you face an hour in the park if it meant they ran some energy off and were more settled later?

At the very least you need to be sitting with feet up and cup of tea/sandwich etc.
Hope you have a lovely evening btw.

Sounds very familiar, my boys are 6 and 9.

Shut yourself away for 5 mins and calm down then give them some jobs to do. I bribe reward them with a pound or 2 if they tidy up, clean their room or something. My boys seem to be quite driven by money at the moment, not sure if that is a good thing or not......

thank you

I've given up working today, I will do it at the weekend. DD is at her friends but will be back soon. I might send them in the garden I think, have had enough of them on Nintendo, they just argue. What winds me up the most is that DS1 starts to act like he's younger than Ds2 and sounds ridiculous, he should be a bit more grown up at nearly 10. Like he will wee all over the seat, not flush the chain, not wash his hands so I have to send him back every time. DS2 does all those things without me having to say. Every time I give him a meal he moans about what he doesn't like before he's even tried it. He is very disrespectful and it embarrasses me when we're out. he certainly hasn't been brought up like this and DS2 and DD are very polite and grateful.

I talk to him, send him to his room to think about what he's done, stop his pocket money etc etc, but nothing seems to work. I feel like all I ever do is shout at him and it makes me sad

thank you

I've given up working today, I will do it at the weekend. DD is at her friends but will be back soon. I might send them in the garden I think, have had enough of them on Nintendo, they just argue. What winds me up the most is that DS1 starts to act like he's younger than Ds2 and sounds ridiculous, he should be a bit more grown up at nearly 10. Like he will wee all over the seat, not flush the chain, not wash his hands so I have to send him back every time. DS2 does all those things without me having to say. Every time I give him a meal he moans about what he doesn't like before he's even tried it. He is very disrespectful and it embarrasses me when we're out. he certainly hasn't been brought up like this and DS2 and DD are very polite and grateful.

I talk to him, send him to his room to think about what he's done, stop his pocket money etc etc, but nothing seems to work. I feel like all I ever do is shout at him and it makes me sad

thank you

I've given up working today, I will do it at the weekend. DD is at her friends but will be back soon. I might send them in the garden I think, have had enough of them on Nintendo, they just argue. What winds me up the most is that DS1 starts to act like he's younger than Ds2 and sounds ridiculous, he should be a bit more grown up at nearly 10. Like he will wee all over the seat, not flush the chain, not wash his hands so I have to send him back every time. DS2 does all those things without me having to say. Every time I give him a meal he moans about what he doesn't like before he's even tried it. He is very disrespectful and it embarrasses me when we're out. he certainly hasn't been brought up like this and DS2 and DD are very polite and grateful.

I talk to him, send him to his room to think about what he's done, stop his pocket money etc etc, but nothing seems to work. I feel like all I ever do is shout at him and it makes me sad

thank you

I've given up working today, I will do it at the weekend. DD is at her friends but will be back soon. I might send them in the garden I think, have had enough of them on Nintendo, they just argue. What winds me up the most is that DS1 starts to act like he's younger than Ds2 and sounds ridiculous, he should be a bit more grown up at nearly 10. Like he will wee all over the seat, not flush the chain, not wash his hands so I have to send him back every time. DS2 does all those things without me having to say. Every time I give him a meal he moans about what he doesn't like before he's even tried it. He is very disrespectful and it embarrasses me when we're out. he certainly hasn't been brought up like this and DS2 and DD are very polite and grateful.

I talk to him, send him to his room to think about what he's done, stop his pocket money etc etc, but nothing seems to work. I feel like all I ever do is shout at him and it makes me sad

thank you

I've given up working today, I will do it at the weekend. DD is at her friends but will be back soon. I might send them in the garden I think, have had enough of them on Nintendo, they just argue. What winds me up the most is that DS1 starts to act like he's younger than Ds2 and sounds ridiculous, he should be a bit more grown up at nearly 10. Like he will wee all over the seat, not flush the chain, not wash his hands so I have to send him back every time. DS2 does all those things without me having to say. Every time I give him a meal he moans about what he doesn't like before he's even tried it. He is very disrespectful and it embarrasses me when we're out. he certainly hasn't been brought up like this and DS2 and DD are very polite and grateful.

I talk to him, send him to his room to think about what he's done, stop his pocket money etc etc, but nothing seems to work. I feel like all I ever do is shout at him and it makes me sad

thank you

I've given up working today, I will do it at the weekend. DD is at her friends but will be back soon. I might send them in the garden I think, have had enough of them on Nintendo, they just argue. What winds me up the most is that DS1 starts to act like he's younger than Ds2 and sounds ridiculous, he should be a bit more grown up at nearly 10. Like he will wee all over the seat, not flush the chain, not wash his hands so I have to send him back every time. DS2 does all those things without me having to say. Every time I give him a meal he moans about what he doesn't like before he's even tried it. He is very disrespectful and it embarrasses me when we're out. he certainly hasn't been brought up like this and DS2 and DD are very polite and grateful.

I talk to him, send him to his room to think about what he's done, stop his pocket money etc etc, but nothing seems to work. I feel like all I ever do is shout at him and it makes me sad

sorry, don't know what happened there