Are these sleeping arrangements suitable?

[Alexphil20]

Hi I've never posted or anything before so please bear with me if I dont know all the shortcuts etc. Basically I'm a 40+ mother with a two year old fantastic daughter (my first!) What's worrying me is that my estranged-husband has her roughly half the time and I thnk the sleeping arrangements may be inappropriate. He only has a single bed and she sleeps in it with him. He is too mean/skint to buy her a cotbed and turned down my offer of her old cot. None of this seemed out of place when she was smaller but i'm starting to feel concerned. What do you think? Would you find this acceptable?

Don't know your ex, but my dh shares a bed with our 2.5 yr old when they go away.

Why did he say no to a cot? Strange if he sees her regularly.

sounds fine to me. I would be happy for my partner to co-sleep with my children.
or my parents. or even my best friend!

agree it is a bit odd for him to turn down the offer of old cot, unless he really has no room for it??

Everyone is different. I would not be overly concerned at this age although it must be getting a bit snug in a single bed. Perhaps though he loves the closeness now that he does not see her as much??
Perhaps he turned down your offer of the old cot because he is short of space? or because he thinks why have something permanent there when he only sees her X amount of the time?
I would buy her a ready bed, one suitable for whatever 2yos are into these days - do they make night garden ones? or similar? And pack her off to Dads with it! She will like the fun of it prolly and he does not have to have it permanently.
Just an idea - it may bridge the gap to him deciding to get her a proper bed.

he must be crazy to want to sleep with a wriggling toddler in a single bed! he must get ZERO sleep. Why don't you just buy the Ikea toddler bed and give to him (it's a flat pack but I built it on my own, is easy to do). At 2.5 she's the perfect fit for it now. It is very cheap and quite small and lightweight. Buy it, help him put it up and sell the idea to him that now she is 2.5 needs her own bed etc etc. Sell it to her too. They could still sleep in same room. Ikea do nice bedspreads, duvets etc. you could get the whole kit for less than £100. I agree she does need to be in her own bed now. I wouldn't necessarily think that if it was a double bed though.

do you co-sleep with her?

the only reason i would be concerned would be for quality of sleep. My dds sleep on their own (and sleep well), and if this was happening with htem I would be worried they would come to rely on it and want the same from me iyswim.

Otherwise, I can't see what si wrong with it

Wow - so much support, so quickly! I wish I'd asked for help in the past. I'm glad the general consensus is its ok. I wasn't worried from a pervy angle; more about things like needing her own space etc. As for buying him anything, I gotta say thats unlikely - he's used me as a cashpoint since the day we met and he's the one with the job, not me! He just prefers spending it on drink (hence estranged). The only time I pay out anything concerning him now is if Daisy would suffer if I didn't. Anyway thanks so much and I'll deffo keep following this site.