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How can I encourage my 2.7YO DS to atleast sit on the potty?

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mamadiva · 10/02/2009 12:26

He does'nt even bother about having wet or dirty nappies and never says if he needs or has done anything.

Actually he doesn't seem ready at all because he won't even sit on the potty or the toilet.

Surely at this age though he needs to learn would you say?

Any sugestions?

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NorbertDentressangle · 10/02/2009 12:29

DS was a reluctant potty/toilet trainer to begin with but I found stickers as a reward for sitting on the potty worked wonders.

His big sister made him a sticker chart and he put them on there.

MrsSeanBeanIsEmployable · 10/02/2009 12:31

Have no experience of that age yet. Stickers sound good.
Have you tried bribery?

pavlovthecat · 10/02/2009 12:34

Stickers are good. I am sure its not a huge deal at this age though is it? Do you show him the potty when you go to the toilet? I think just letting him know it is there is good enough, offer it every now and then (before bed, first thing in the morning, when you change his nappy).

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Sparkletastic · 10/02/2009 12:34

I'm with you in your suffering DD2 is 2.9 and just not bothered. Occasionally pees on potty and looks very pleased with herself but generally unbothered by being in wet / dirty nappy. Choc buttons worked to get DD1 to sit on potty - also sticker chart - but may not work with 2nd! Have discussed with RL mum friends and the consensus - especially with boys - is leave it until they are 3 (or at least until weather gets warmer for a bit of pant-free outdoors action). Does DS go to nursery? They can sometimes get them jump-started as they can have more influence than stressed out mum (that's me not you necessarily!). My DDs nursery are very up for having a go at training her as soon as it gets a bit warmer and DD won't have to be bundled up in so many hard to remove items of clothing.

Tommy · 10/02/2009 12:35

why do you want him to if you don't think he's ready?

My DSs were nearly 3 before they started being interested

NorbertDentressangle · 10/02/2009 12:44

Thinking back DS was about 2.11 when we got him interested using stickers.

Another thing we did was have a potty in the bathroom so when we he was undressed before/after a bath he would often just briefly sit on it.

He didn't seem to mind then as he was already naked so no effort to pull down trousers etc. In fact I think a lot of it was sheer laziness in that with nappies he had to make zero effort, just lie there whilst he was changed.

Actually I can still see that lazy streak in him now -hes just started school and the other day I watched through the clasroom window as he sat there whilst the teacher crawled around on the floor taking his shoes off and putting his wellies on. He can do it himself -he just prefers someone else to do it for him!

Sorry -waffled on a bit there but it suddenly dawned on me!

crokky · 10/02/2009 13:08

DS was 2.7 and we sat him on the potty as soon as he woke up in front of the TV with either grapes or choc buttons. Worked well as when the wee came we praised him etc. I think you have to take the nappy off and don't put one back on. Stay home if it's a prob to go out like this. We had accidents (lots) for 3 weeks and then it was OK.

MadamDeathstare · 10/02/2009 13:15

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georgiemum · 10/02/2009 13:16

Tell him he can't use it. At all. Ever. The pop favourite teddy on it.

MrsSeanBeanIsEmployable · 10/02/2009 13:20

likes georgiemum's thinking.
Must file that post away for future reference.

fridayschild · 10/02/2009 13:33

DS2 was 3.1 before he sat on the potty. We'd been trying like others above with stickers and casual invitations, without success. Then we went to a friend's house, and her DS, a month older than DS2 sat on the potty but didn't quite get his willy in and the wee went everywhere... Laminate wood floor, wiped up without bother or fuss. This did the trick, and everytime he sat on the potty after that for about 2 weeks DS2 would discuss with me the time poor old Patrick wee'd on the floor. Obviously he'd been worried about not getting it right, and was only ready to try once he'd seen that wasn't a problem.

If it helps you hang on till your DS is ready, DS2 did potty train extraordinarily fast after that.

docket · 10/02/2009 13:36

I second those saying wait until ready. DS was way over 3 before he sat on one. DD is 2.8 and she's a potty refusnik too!

ilovemydogandMrObama · 10/02/2009 13:41

We had several attempts at potty training before it 'clicked'

DD saw a friend same age using potty, and she did it at her friends house, but wasn't quite so successful at home. She had more accidents than managing potty and got so incredibly distressed.

So, put the nappies back on, and tried again a few weeks later.

She likes 'reading' books on the potty

smallorange · 10/02/2009 13:42

chocolate buttons

MrsSeanBeanIsEmployable · 10/02/2009 13:46

Liking chocolate orange's thinking as well.

MrsSeanBeanIsEmployable · 10/02/2009 13:46

Sorry, smallorange the mention of chocolate (in the same post as orange) got me all in a kerfuffle!

Frauseibolt · 10/02/2009 21:09

My DS is 3 and a bit and sound exactly like your little one. He'll go around in a manky nappy and doesn't seem to care. He would get hysterical if we tried to get him to sit on the potty or toilet so we let it ride for a while. Then my husband had the genius idea of putting the kiddie toilet seat on a stool and asking if DS would sit on it. Turns out he was scared that he'd fall in! now he's been fine about sitting on the loo for the last couple of weeks so we're gradually trying to build it up (refuses to use the potties we've bought him though). However, I think the only way to really achieve anything is to lose the pull ups altogether so that he has to either use the loo or mess himself, but it's too cold at the moment to do that. Stickers seem to work reasonably well as a reward, but I think he's just fundamentally lazy about the pottying thing. Sigh.

rookiemater · 10/02/2009 21:15

Leave him for a bit. I have been trying with DS aged 2.11 for a number of months.

Sometimes quite happy to pee in the potty if naked from the waist down, but no success when in pants. Then got to the stage where he howled if no nappy on. Coincided with some health problems for me so I decided just to leave it for a bit.

Then on Saturday morning DS announced that he didn't want to wear nappies and since then he hasn't (apart from at night time like my sleep far too much to start that yet !) We have had a few accidents, but it has been very unstressful as DS wants to do it. Oh and because he is almost three I have decded that we aren't doing any mucking around with pull ups when we go out, so won't be attempting the soft play for a few eeks.

rookiemater · 10/02/2009 21:16

But I do like georgiemums suggestion

frumpygrumpy · 10/02/2009 21:19

I've always been a fan of bribery. You can wean them off bribery later

"sweetheart, I'm doing dishes. Anytime you fancy doing a wee in that potty, you can have a (single) dolly mixture, two if you do a poo" then leave and don't go on about it.

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