Hi
I have posted on about this already but basically on saturday my ds was playing out with four other children in our street.
Now my ds who is 8 plays generally okay with two of these children who happen to be brothers the brothers are 9 and 7.
The other two children who were playing are a boy of 10 and a girl of 9 who do mostly play together but they do occasionally muscle in on my ds and these two brothers.
My ds has played with the boy and girl before and it has escalated into problems and has ended in my view with them picking on him and ousting him.
My ds can be prone to moods when things are not going his way so I am aware that can soemtimes be a factor although I do think the boy and girl are both two nasty pieces of work.
Has I said they were all playing on saturday and I have noticed that everytime they all play there is problems.
The one brother of 9 and this boy and girl all went into the girls garden and bolted the gate so my ds and the younger brother of 7 couldn,t get in as well there was then a nasty snowball fight going on over the fence at each other three against two.
I am not gojng to say that my ds was an angel as I had to tell him off about throwing sticks over etc.
I witnessed the 10 year old spit over my fence with a look of hatred and then look over towards my window to see if I was looking.
I then noticed that the 7 year old who was on my side of the fence with my ds was crying as a snowball had hit him in the cheek.
I went out to have a look to see if he was okay and the others at that point came out of the girls garden and they all started throwing abuse at my ds I told them all calmly that none of them had been playing nicely today.
The 10 year old had some right goes at me telling me that I never tell my ds off and that the problem is my ds and me.
The girl started belting my ds with snowballs and gave him a shove and my ds then launched inot a fight with the girl and then the 10 year old who is best mates with this girl started sizing up to my ds and then they both launched into a fight he kneed my ds in the stomach and my ds bit him on the arm.
I did my best to split them up but it was out of control.
The lot of them including the younger brother of 7 turned on my ds and they then started walking up the street together and I took my ds inside who was shouting back at them.
They then all proceeded to throw snowballs at my porch even after we had gone in and closed the door and the girl came down my drive and flung my porch door open I steped out and asked her why she had done that and she gave a cocky shrug.
I have spoken to the girls parents and they have made her apologise but I am fuming about things and I especially feel I was intimidated by the 10 year old with his appaling atitiude.
I am not sure if I should be speaking to his parents baout all of this he does have abruise on his arm where my ds bit him.
I have always welcomed these children into my house gave them snacks etc even played a game of pool with them.
This boy and girl do seem to be able to play it so that evryone turns on my ds they are a couple of ringleaders and I can see they will always be a problem for him and are likely to ruin any friendships he has in the street.
I must also add that these three who were in the girls garden were also throwing snowballs at my conservatory and at my kitchen window despite the fact that my ds and the other child had gone out of my garden and were trying to get into the girls garden.
I continually asked them to stop but they wouldn,t.
I am pretty sure that on this particular day that my ds and me were been intimidated.
Has I said my ds has had problems before when he has played with this boy and girl and My ds didn,t play with them for a while but it was them who came back to my ds wanting to play again and I gave things another chance but it has ended like this.
Should I speak to this boys parents about his behaviour or could it makes things worse.
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Would you speak to this boys parents after this behaviour
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crazedupmom · 09/02/2009 14:43
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