Really struggling with this parenting lark

[DontGetIt]

I do know other folk find it hard work ...but I seem to be the only mum I know who finds its so boring too. I just feel such a shit mum. By most afternoons I have run out of the ability to read books, play games, chase etc. It just gets too much and I want them to go away for a bit. Feel so mean since DC1 is 3 and DC 2 is 14 months so can hardly entertain themselves.

A lot of the problem, I think, is we have no friends locally so its just me and them 24/7. I try to do the cooking/painting/reading stuff with them, we go to some classes/groups when we can (still juggling naps atm)but I just seem to have got to the point where I am so fed up with just being with them and no one else (OK, DH evenings)that Ive run out of enthusiasm for it all. How do I get some bounce back when I never get any time away from it all?

Ironic really, since im sure by many peoples standards Im lucky to be a SAHM.Have no job waiting for me and a chronically clingy DC2 so not sure work is a go-er at the mo anyway.

I found the easiest way to break into these groups is by focusing initially on the kids. e.g. someone's toddler does something funny or cute and you comment on it then ask how old he/she is etc etc. I found that it goes from there. Much easier to talk about the kids than ourselves obviously.

I soooo agree about the mind numbing boringness of some of it. Its one of those things thats almost a crime to admit in real life (I did to my mum and she reacted as tho I had confessed to murder) And hell its hard when you haven't had a 'proper' conversation all day.
One thing that helped me is to do something each day and try to structure the week so that it gives dd and me a chance to socialise. Where are you in th UK?

Gaaahhh bad day. Older DS is on co-operation strike. Getting dressed, being nice to baby, cleaning teeth, eating, joining in at gym class...nope to the lot of it. So we got thrown out of gym because they couldn't watch him and teach (he was wandering around being a pain) and I had to do the same at swimming class last week. So even the things we try to do at the mo are a disaster...

My mum has cancer and has only got months to live. Im really down so I guess DS is picking up on it and has gone feral quite frankly.

And I've hardly any mates. I live on the outskirts of Bristol sunflower. I know there is a Bristol group but that is a tricky one. I use mumsnet because of the anonymity..can pour my heart out here then present a sane face to the real world. (As it is I even use a name change just for issues that feel a bit too emotional) I don't know how I would feel about meeting up in RL with folks from here. (Oh to be in a position to be so picky!!)

Sorry, feeling glum today

Really sorry to hear you are having a rough day and also that your Mum is ill. No wonder things are getting you down.

The best play group I have been to is one based at a family church in my city. I don't attend the church/am not a regular churchgoer but everyone has been very welcoming. I was introduced to the group by a family friend and then left to get on with it.

Or what about neighbours? Once we finally got organised and set up a play date my neighbours and I got on very well. I found we had a lot more in common (frustration with our DC!) than I thought.

Are you getting a break while DC have a nap?