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My 3 year old has been with my PIL since 4.30pm on Friday

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NAB09 · 07/02/2009 13:53

Going over there for tea in 3 hours. Feels a long time for someone so small to be away from his parents. Also first time he has slept there alone though we have had 2 nights away from him last year when PIL stayed at our house with him. Am I stressing over nothing?

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Twims · 07/02/2009 13:58

I work for a family who routinely leave their 3 children at their grandparents for a weekend stay - All day Friday until Sunday lunch time - children's aged from 4 months to 7 years of age.

Malakai · 07/02/2009 14:06

It feels odd at first, doesn't it?
No doubt he's had a fab time, and been spoilt rotten.
It'll be nice for you to have him back though.

PandaG · 07/02/2009 14:17

when I was pg with DD I ended up spending a month in hospital due to SPD. DS was 2.2 at the time and was looked after by at various times both sets of GPs and an aunt. I did see him nearly every day.

since DS was 3 he has been to stay with my P's for a week at a time, accompanied by DD once she was 18 months.

I was a SAHM, now work PT, and having a child free week 3 or 4 times a year has been a real blessing. PIL live near my parents, as do both aunts. DC have a night at grandma's, a night at each aunts during their week at Nanny's, ensuring lots of individual attention.

everyone wins, DC have great relationship with their grandparents, who live several hours drive away, and DH and I get some time off, we have been away for a few nights, or spent time doing DIY that would have been difficult with the children. We also go out every night when the children are away as we don't need babysitters.

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francagoestohollywood · 07/02/2009 14:24

Yes, you are stressing over nothing . Unless he hates being there of course or unless you really hate not being with him.
Otherwise, on paper, it is perfectly fine to leave young children with loving relatives.

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NAB09 · 07/02/2009 14:28

I am sure he will have had a lovely time and I am sure the next time he goes for the day he will be miffed he can't stay. I left instructions to call me at any time if he was upset and I would go and get him. I guess it is just because he is my youngest.

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PandaG · 07/02/2009 14:38

was really odd for me the first time both my DC went to GP's, and I always miss them so much. enjoy your time off!

francagoestohollywood · 07/02/2009 14:52

Ohhhhh you have a plb!

When ds was tiny I was convinced by friends to go to have pizza in between feeds. I left him for a grand total of 1 hr and a half with both pil and my parents . I'm not sure I enjoyed the pizza .

I loved staying with my grandparents as a child (and spent lots of time in their care during the summer holidays when my mum still worked), so I've always been pretty relaxed in leaving the dc with them

francagoestohollywood · 07/02/2009 14:52

with their grandparents, not my grandparents

piscesmoon · 07/02/2009 14:53

I expect that they have all loved it.

ThePellyandMe · 07/02/2009 15:01

I'm sure he's had a great time And its so good to have a bit of child free time every now and again.

I first left my DS' with my parents when DS2 was 12 months old. He screamed at the door when I walked out

It nearly broke my heart but they had a great time, DS2 was fine once I had gone. Now they are 6 and 4 my parents have them alot at half terms in in the summer hols because of work and they love it. My parents do things with them we can't like take them away in their caravan, its fab.

My grandparents always seemed old and I never had a close relationship with them so I'm glad my ds' have that.

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NAB09 · 07/02/2009 15:22

I felt like a bad mum tbh as he is so little but I haven't had the best week and felt guilty for wanting a break.

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francagoestohollywood · 07/02/2009 15:28

I see what you mean NAB, but leaving children with willing and loving grandparents doesn't constitute being a bad mother at any stretch

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NAB09 · 07/02/2009 16:20

Seeing him in 40 minutes

And our other two of course!!!

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NAB09 · 07/02/2009 19:06

He wanted to stay another night!

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piscesmoon · 07/02/2009 19:07

That's lovely! You can do it again!

bebespain · 07/02/2009 19:38

Hi there

I have just done this today for the first time since DS was born. DH has taken DS (2.2yrs) to his parents and they are going to spend the night there and come back tomorrow.

I am PG at the mo and have had a really difficult week and am so tired that I was really looking forward to the break. However when they set off this morning I was distraught and have felt guilty ever since. I know I should make the most of this rare me-time... but...ahhh its tough being a mum isn´t it!?

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NAB09 · 07/02/2009 21:09

Just enjoy the break as it won't be worth it otherwise. Guilt is part of the job. Try not to let it take over.

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