school friends and neighbourhood freinds

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Hi This is a couple opf questions really.
Just wondering how other people manage relationships that their dc's have with children in the street and ones with their mates from school who sometimes come on playdates.
If your dc has a mate from school do you let any neighbourhood friends muscle in on them if they call, or do you think its only fair to let your dc and a school mate play on their own together.
When my dc has a mate from school they only generally play in the house or maybe in the back garden.
I don,t allow my ds and a friend from school to play out the front as I feel I am responsible for their safety, however my ds does play out the front with neighbourhood friends he has just gone 8.
Was also wondering if you think its acceptable to allow your dc and a mate from school to play out the front or would you think its appropriate to ask the freinds parents if this is okay before allowing this.

Mostly a bump for you, but are you asking because you have issues with the safety of the neighbourhood?

Ds 1 is nearly 5.

When he has a school friend he doesn't see his mates in the street. When he has his mates from the street round we do a mixture of in/out and take it in turns to watch (neighbour and I) or we have a coffee while they play. Ours have to play in or aout the front as our gardens are too small (new builds have crap gardens, ours is a yard really) Ds is allowed outside on his own whilst I cook as I have a view of the street but he has firm boundaries as to where he's allowed/not allowed and we have practised with him what to say to people he knows/doesn't. We run through this each time he goes out and have actually tested him using our neighbours who he knows but he's been told he's not allowed to cross the road when out on his own.

No
Don,t have any issues with safety of neighbourhood I suppose I am thinking more along the lines of getting run over. I am talking of 7 and 8 year olds so not really young children, but kids being kids they can forget about road safety when they are engrossed in play.
I know that we as parents have to make our own decisions as to whether we allow our children to play out but if my ds has a mate from school I don,t feel commfortable letting the friend out and was just wondering what others thoughts are on this.
Should we be asking the parents of every child that we have back at our houses if they are allowed to play out.

Do you just send street mates away if they call muppetgirl if your ds has a mate from school.
I don,t know why but I sort of feel bad if I do this.

I suppose if I had any concerns as a parent, I'd be telling the other parent that DS has the roadsense of a hedgehog anyway. But you sound like a responsible person so as another parent I'd trust you. Is that helpful?

Thanks for that Per I know I am probably waffling a bit here so apologies for that.
I suppose what I am saying is that I feel a sense of respnsibility towards another persons child and just don,t feel happy letting them play out the front despite the fact I am talking of 7 and 8 year olds.
Do other mumsnetters think its best that we check that the childs parents are happy with them playing out at a friends house as we ourselves don,t perhaps really know that childs raod sense.
I know there has been occasions where mates in the street have called for my ds when he has had a mate from school but I have not allowed either of them out because I have the mate to think of.

I wouldn't let my DS play outside the house (not least because one of our neighbours drives like a loon and recently knocked over a child (who was OK, thank God) in our tiny road) and would be upset if someone else let him.