How often does your toddler see his/her grandparents?

[rebelmum72]

Was just wondering how often your LOs saw their GPs, and how important it is to you that they do so.

I try to make sure that ds (almost 2) sees his GM once a week. She doesn't live very far, about a 20 min drive away, and he is happy to be left to play with his gran for a couple of hours or so.
But I don't always manage it, as some weeks we just have a lot going on or need to get other things done, and I do feel a bit guilty that they haven't seen each other.
On the other hand, there are weeks such as this week when they've seen each other three times!
I do think at this age it's vital to have regular contact so that they can build a trusting relationship. I'm particularly pleased that they get on so well he hardly notices whether I'm there or not

BTW, this is my MIL I'm talking about - my parents live in a different country, so we see them every couple of months or so, but for at least a few days at a time.

Anyway, was just wondering how you all do it / feel about it

Whereabouts are you Themasterandmargaritas? We're also the ones who are abroad (in Germany).

Even if we were back in the UK, my parents wouldn't see us all the time as they spend about half the year (not in one go) abroad too, so they can't really complain!!

It is lovely when ds sees a pic of my parents though and says Bata! Diddy! (this is what he calls them).

They see my IL s every day. My parents live abroad so we see them 2 -3 times a year but speak to them on the phone almost every day. We also speak to my grandparents almost every day and they live abroad too (and i m in my 40s )

It is very important to me.

Not often enough

DH's parents live abroad for 6 months of the year and other than a phone call on xmas day there is no contact during the time they are away. When they are here they live 10 mins away and see them hardly ever anyway.

My parents visit once every 2/3 weeks. It's a punishment because i dared to speak my mind/live my own life. Only ones they are punishing are my dc and themselves. I don't give a shit if they come or not anymore tbh.

Dh's parents are overseas (a very long way) and don't fly. Dd is 3.5 and has seen them once. Dh calls home about once a month. (My parents are dead.)

It is a dilemma. I wish we could see more of them but it's very expensive and we have other family overseas too. We've offered to send tickets but PIL won't fly anywhere.

Too much for my liking in the case of MIL! She comes round atleast once a week and although I dont want the DC;s to not see her, she annoys me to the hilt, and makes me feel uncomfortable in my own home, so sometimes I try and arrange things when I know she will be free.

My parents are about two hours away, so we try and see them atleast once a month, it would be more but the journey is a long, borning one, especially with three children, and public transport is a no-no

My parents (local) once of twice a week. Dh's parents live at the other end of the country, have v. little room and his mum won't travel up here Oct-April as she hates northern cold . So, 2 or 3 times a year with lots of phone calls in between.

Would love ds to see more of dh's parents, but the logistics make it extremely difficult.

Ils live 5 mins away and we see them on average once a fortnight for a couple of hrs.

My family live 2 hrs away and we see them maybe once a month but for a whole day or weekend.

Mine see MIL about once every month or two, usually for a couple of hours. She likes to inspect them and then move on, and isn't terribly interested in small children.

See my parents for 2/3 very long days at a time, about 3 times a year. That is more than enough.

Both lots live 3/4 hours away.

My lovely mum travels an hour up the motorway every Sunday evening and stays over until Tuesday evenings to look after dd whilst I work. Also - she always comes up bearing gifts, cleans the house and does all my washing/ironing and has a hot delicious meal ready for dh, dd and I in the evening.

She completely refuses to take any money and would have dd more often if she had the chance!!!

PIL see dd once a week - they live locally but are quite elderly and mil is quite unwell at the moment.

Top mum you've got there !

My mum & dad -every day, and both girls (3.2 & 18 mo) speak to them on the phone each morning.

PIL live abroad. See them once per year.

My mum lives 15 mins away and sees the kids most days. She collects DS from nursery two afternoons a week and has him for the afternoon, too. She is happy to babysit, too. She is pretty fab, actually.

My dad and DH's mum both live overseas, so only see kids at holidays.

My children see their Grandad at least once a week. He lives about 15mins away but he doesnt drive so we tend to pick him up to come here or we go to his house.

Inlaws live 200+ miles away so only see them 3 or 4 times a year, but stay for a few days.