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Playdates necessary , yes , no ??

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Lilyloo · 30/01/2009 21:35

Tried to shorten title given tech probs!!

Basically ds nearly 7 yr2.

He never asks for any friends around etc.

Does football 3 days a week of which 2 he get's lift , gives lift to friends from school.

Dp more worried than me.
It seems that lot's of children do playdates etc

DS has had couple mostly reciprocated from invites.

He isn't bothered but are they really par for the course ?

I guess we are lucky to live on an estate full of kids dc age or thereabouts so never shortage of kids to play with.

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Tigerschick · 30/01/2009 21:44

DD is only 2.11 so not in the same 'league' as your DS but, to me, it sounds like he has a pretty full schedule as it is.
When I was his age I lived near quite a few children from my school and we just played together without any pre-arranged 'dates'.

I'd say go with the flow and see what your DS wants to do.

gagarin · 30/01/2009 21:44

IME it's the girls who ask their mums if they can have friends round not the boys.

The boys tend to do more thingd like sport or clubs with a group of friends rather than in a one to one situation.

AMumInScotland · 30/01/2009 21:48

If there's plenty of kids around to play with, what would be the point of specially importing other ones for play-dates? Playdates were invented to make up for the lack of chances to play with the kids round abou.

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piscesmoon · 30/01/2009 21:51

If you have got plenty of children round about to play with it is much better and you don't need them-it is a very artificial thing to substitute for just going out.

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Lilyloo · 30/01/2009 21:51

That's my thinking if ds was bothered by this he would ask

Or not ??

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RiaParkinson · 30/01/2009 21:52

not necessary no

piscesmoon · 30/01/2009 22:19

I much prefer them just to go out and play-if they get fed up, tired or fall out they can just come home. It is very difficult if they fall out with a play date and you realise that you have another 2 hours to fill!

tankie · 30/01/2009 22:30

If he has plenty of friends in the neighbourhood to play with I wouldn't worry. I have 4 and 6 year old charges and they tend to go to someone's house or have a school friend back about once a week, but they specifically ask for it.

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Lilyloo · 30/01/2009 22:41

'necessary' not the right word

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RiaParkinson · 31/01/2009 00:11

no need lilyloo

I realised when my older ones were older...

my younger ds (6) never has playdates - just busy enough in his own life - i dont think it impacts on later friendships at all

of primary importance is happiness and your ds sounds happy

LucyEllensmummy · 31/01/2009 00:22

my DD is 3 and already we have to do play dates - i want to make sure she interacts with other children, but i find it quite painful actually.

Joolyjoolyjoo · 31/01/2009 00:25

Oh, you are lucky! I have a dd (5yrs) who accosts me off the school bus wanting XXX to come over, and I am put on the spot! I'd be happy to let them play at school!

RiaParkinson · 01/02/2009 12:02

jools you need to learn a stern look that means 'dont even go there!'

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