Come and tell me about smoking and babies sleeping...

[lauraloola]

My mum and dad want dd to stay over night at their house. Dd is 7mo. TBH it is a good idea because dd will be with her other grandparents in April for a night and shes never been away from us.

The thing that is stopping me is that my dad smokes and dd would be in their room. He doesnt smoke a lot but it still worries me.

Am I just being very PFB again?

Well it isn't advised, but a one off is unlikely to cause any problems I would have thought...

No, you are right to be concerned. have a look at this as it has the details

Thanks. I think I am going to say she can stay over when he stops smoking.

Its such a shame because my mum so wants to have her. She will have to back to me up on this one I think.

I have to say I would say no too - party because of the smoke (she'd smell minging when she came back to you too!).

your dad could smoke oustide. you're blackmailing him to give up and if you let the other gp have her overnight, i doubt your dad was be very pleased

He doesnt really smell of smoke and never smokes in the house.

I can see why my mum doesnt see it as being a problem and she would ban him from smoking all afternoon before dd got there IYSWIM.

I think I will show them the website to show them how important it is not to smoke.

If he smokes outside and waits fifteen minutes after he has had a cigarette before going near dd, everything should be fine.

Assuming, that is, that he doesn't smoke in the house and specifically the bedroom.

It would be a pity to not let her go at all when they will all have a lovely time, and he is taking all reasonable precautions (short of actually giving up)

He never smokes in the house and never has done. He always smokes outside. I dont even think he knows that I know hes smoking again!

I think I will suggest that she can stay but that he cant smoke the whole time she is there and showers before going to bed!!

I think he will do it because I know he would love to have the time with her aswell.

i agree with smoking outside, and your lo is 7 months, not 7 weeks.
perhaps he can wash and clean his teeth before bed.
he won't be the only grownup sharing a room with a baby who smokes. and plenty of parents now smoke in the garden/outside.

So what SEA, is she supposed to say 'Look I dont want you to have baby and I will worry myself silly but I dont want you to feel bad about smoking so have her anyway'

nah, I wouldn't!

how about letting your child sleep in a different room? why does he/she have to go in the same room? in any case as long as your father is prepard to take all the precautions he can i dont see the problem.surely he isnt going to have a ciggarette 10 mins before bedtime??

Personally I would (have) let my dd stay. I understand how you feel - both my parents smoke and always have and I am v anti it and try to be "supportive" of them giving up but I can't see it ever happening! I wouldn't deprive them of them precious first grandchild because of it, the occasional night, presume baby will be in a travel cot rather than in their bed, and it's not likely that their room is a smokey environment. Also, if she's ever getting cuddles from her grandpa (and presume she has in last 7 months) then she's already occassionally coming into contact with smoke, you can't protect her from it entirely or forever.

I see no problem whatsoever with it. TBH I'd be more worried if they'd both had a few glasses of wine and might be a bit unresponsive if LO cried, or if they had a bad cold or whatever, or if they were a bit impractical and clumsy, or had dangerous things in their house or a dog. Those are real risks..

Smoking indoors would be totally different, but if it's outside, who cares?