Want to co sleep, but how?

[roseability]

Pregnant with number 2 and I am keen to co sleep. I never officially co slept with my DS (2.9) but he would quite often sleep in our bed on 'bad' nights.

Which is the best way to do it? In your bed next to you or maybe one of those bedside cots? If they sleep in your bed which is the safest way to do it?

Any advice/experience greatly appreciated!

I am so sorry to hear that shh.
sorry I got the wrong idea about you.

I truely wish him all the best.

I will ask my dh about hirschsprungs disease.

as I have said you are clearly doing a superb job.

just checked out your pictures.

that shh one is fab.

No problems bbb...
I know mn works in differnt ways..been here long enough .

Thanks for the comments. Its hard though esp when lo's are ill to know that you are doing a good job...

Is your dh medically minded..?
Its not a well know illness,our gp has never had a case of hd before and afaik ds is the only patient on his books with it.
Affects around 1/500 (which iir means a baby is born every 3 days with it..)

Yeah, the "scan" one is lovely.. Amazing..!

know I know where you got your nickname from!

My dh is GP.
I'm going to get him to explain this to me.
a baby born with this condition every 3days

Best of luck to your little boy.

I think I will have the moses basket beside our bed and then let them sleep next to me when they want to/are unsettled. I will be breastfeeding.

DS was in our room until 3 months. I still feel incredibly guilty that he wasn't with us until 6 months. I breastfed him for a year so must have gone into his room and brought him back to bed for feeds (including to our bed), how silly! Although he was never left to cry and we have a very sensitive monitor. This time I will be sticking to my guns and keeping baby with us longer (I was persuaded to move my DS out at 3 months IYSWIM). I was a very anxious mum and had PND but I feel by seperating babies it actually makes things worse. I am a lot more confident and relaxed about number 2, so looking forward to the experience

rose who persuded you? your dh?

goodluck with the new baby

rose i just want to say I am pretty much doing what you think you will do with my DS2, he sleeps in his starts off in his basket and ends up in our bed most of the time
I had PND with my 1st son and was also very anxious and would never sleep with him in our bed because I was paranoid he would die (very daft looking back at it). I am so much more relaxed with this baby and no PND, it is so different and I think some of this is just being more confident to have the baby close to me..

practically what I did was have the duvet around my lower body with a blanket over my shoulders and DS2. with the pillow well away from him. he sleeps between DH and I as the bed is in the middle of the room and if he was on my side he may fall out. I also have my arm around his shoulders so he wouldn't get lost in the bed, although he is getting a bit heavy for that now. He is now 4 months and he sleep half under our duvet cuddled up to me, the duvet is a light summer one.

Shhh I hope your DS continues to make good progress

Yes it was DH but I don't hold it against him. He is a fantastic daddy and I love him dearly. Yes he was wrong in a way but he struggled too and hated seeing me so tired and down. I think he genuinely thought it would help us both. I have to say DS did sleep okay in his own room and was never left to cry and actually ended up in our bed sometimes anyway! However I am not advocating moving your baby out that young. It is natural for a mother and baby to sleep close, I really believe that. I think sometimes men have a different perspective!

He agrees that this time baby will be with us for at least 6 months.

Rose there are some safe co-sleeping guidelines here if you did want to read through them.

I'm a huge wriggler but find when DS is in with me I don't move a muscle - in fact that is my one annoyance re co-sleeping - I get sore hips from lying in the same position for so long.

I think as long as it's safe, I don't mind where my baby sleeps as long as he is happy (but I love having him close enough to cuddle & kiss!)

thanks hedgepig .

bbb,hope you have more info from your dh. Yes, the condition ds has is awful although the way we look at is that there could be worse iykiwm...
It doesn't seem to "affect" him to much, dispite numerous nappy changes etc he is such a happy boy and always has been. The comments we get off people, given what he's been through he still smiles..

rose,its hard for the men as I guess they see us going through something so life changing and at time so hard work and they feel helpless...
You are lucky to have a supportive dh as that makes things so much easier. Dh is also v supportive both with dd and now ds and thats half the battle !
Dh is working away atm so I have 2 lo's 24/7 and its hard work..lol dh keeps telling me to "check into a hotel" for a night when he gets back each wkd... A night of uninterupted sleep....sounds tempting .

God luck with baby2..it is easier btw, you know what you are doing and people tend to lay off you iykiwim..medical people, friend and family...We never got half the comments with ds that we did with dd.
BUT then again, I guess I never expected going from a healthy dd to having an ill ds...

You do what feels right x