6 year old hard to "get along with "

[klou]

My son is 6 and we are going through a bad time. I just find it hard to connect in anyway with him. He's is not unhappy, school is ok, but i cant really put my finger on how to play with him, what to do with him after school. I have 2 other little ones ( 2yrs & 5 months ) that need attention so by the time i get to him i am very tired , but i always try and suggest we read a book but he always says no.I ask him what he wants to do and he says "nothing!"i feel like a bad mum with him and dont know what to do, any help? thanks

You need to give him more options; sort out time with him (after the others are in bed?) and discuss in advance what you could do together; perhaps whilst you are bathing the others, he could get the activity ready; Top Trumps, puzzles, car races, lego etc etc.

Hi there klou, i agree with nell. My son is also 6 and so a long time ive struggled to get through to him. He is a socialable boy but i just ddidnt know how to connect with him. Until recently ive made a decision to just enjoy him. Literally come at his level see what he likes doing and even though im tired i make sure that i go into his space and be silly with him. Infact yesterday we were playing action hereos and he said to me, 'your not a kid mum' it was so great because i never play with him in that way. I mean we play but not his games. The other option is to invest in games, puzzles, chess etc. Board games especially great to interact with him. I pretend i dont know how to play this encourages to feel he can teach me something. I am even getting into play station. lol

Try making something together, i am NOT a creative parent in that sense and yesterday we fixed a bed together it took a while but if you saw the look on his face when we were done, a sense of working together and giving praises al,ong the way.(mind you might not do that again, it was stressful)
Hope ive been off some help.