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Crying when left at nursery,

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Bonnycat · 23/01/2009 10:07

Hi,My 3 year old has just started morning nursery -3 weeks now.
She has cried every morning when i have left her which is very hard but the nursery teachers say she is fine once i have gone and i do believe them having being a nanny and i have ssen how children do this.
When i pick her up she is sitting happily with the other children and chats about what she has done when we get home.
I know it will take a bit of time for her to settle but just wondered if anyone elses DC were like this how long as in days/weeks did they cry for?

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Phoenix · 23/01/2009 10:13

My ds has been going for 3 weeks, 2 mornings a week and is still crying so i'll keep an eye on this thread too.

They say the same, that he settles as soon as i walk out of the door. He's even been crying in the car on the way to nursery and for the last few days has been waking up crying because he thinks he's going again. It's really awful seeing him so upset and i've been in tears too . Except yesterday when i realised that he might be playing me so i don't take him anymotre if he's upset

As everyone keeps telling me they do get used to it

sfxmum · 23/01/2009 10:13

hi I did not want to leave you without answer, my dd is 3.8 and has been going for 2/3 mornings since last September.
at first she did not cry when being left but once the novelty wore off she did get tearful at drop off
just after Christmas she would cry and look at me saying 'no mummy don't go I am scared' and generally had to be picked up and cuddled by staff but was always ok on pick up, although she would tell me she had been miserable

well this week she has skipped along with barely a backward glance
and btw my way of saying bye has remained the same, short cheerful positive

Phoenix · 23/01/2009 10:16

Oh my ds is 3 next month btw

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Feenie · 23/01/2009 10:22

My ds started in January, and was like this. He's just had a week off with illness so was 10 times as bad this morning - punching, kicking, etc. I am at home poorly with his lurgy, so really didn't need this. Both the cm who takes him and the nursery say he is absolutely fine when left. Has your dd always done this? My ds would do it when 2 yrs old after a long school holiday at home or still does it now if I go out (his Dad says the same, he is fine 2 seconds after I have gone).

It feels awful though, doesn't it. I have driven to work in tears before now

thepuddingchef · 23/01/2009 10:44

My ds has been doing this since we started back after xmas. Yesterday and today a break thro he didn't cry! I wouldn't worry too much if the staff say she is fine once your gone...it will pass as their confidence grows.

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Bonnycat · 26/01/2009 19:47

Hurray,no tears this morning!
I turned from hanging up DDs coat to find she had run to the other side of the nursery to chat to her favourite teacher!-So pleased.

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Phoenix · 27/01/2009 09:53

Yay for your DD

I've just got back from taking Ds. Usually we've had tears from the second he gets up, on and off, til i leave him at pre-school, but no tears today until we walked in the pre-school door. But he went off fine, although still crying, with his teacher. So i'm quite happy too, he's getting there

OneLieIn · 27/01/2009 09:54

My DCs used to do this. If you get there a few minutes earlier, stand outside the door and listen, you'll see how quickly they stop!!!

Phoenix · 27/01/2009 09:59

They've told me every time that he stops the second i leave. It doesn't make it easier though does it

OneLieIn · 27/01/2009 10:44

No, it doesn't. But once I spent every day outside the door and heard that every day he stopped crying within 30 seconds of me leaving.

whomovedmychocolate · 27/01/2009 10:47

DD was unable to stay more than half an hour until two weeks ago - she's been going for nine weeks - but only one session so far. Then last week, she stayed and came home and said 'I played with the other children, it was fun'.

I was so relieved! I still sit nervously waiting for the staff to call and say 'please come get her she's upset' but they haven't as yet today!

Hang in there - everyone goes through this!

Tigerschick · 27/01/2009 11:42

We have a window at the front of the nursery. I always sneek a peek as I'm leaving and see DD who was, just moments before, a sobbing wreck, playing happily with the other children.

Apparently she does still get a bit upset when the morning children go home but the staff are very good at distracting her. It took about 4 weeks of going 8-4 one day a week for her to stop crying when I left.

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