Should I leave DS (2.8) for 2 nights with grandparents?

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following on from another thread which has given me serious doubts about this

It is a treat for my 30th birthday and is not far away (hotel). It is a family friendly hotel so beginning to feel guilty, as my DS might quite enjoy it. I do love going on holiday with him and have never left him for more than a night before

Am I being selfish?

I often leave my ds (17m) for a whole weekend with one of my parents, have done from the start and will do for as long as I think it's not too much for them. Hew stays overnight maybe every 6 weeks and 3 nights maybe every 3 months or something.
I'd go, your ds might really enjoy being spoilt by his grandparents for a couple of days and they might really enjoy it too

i don't think you're being selfish. it's only two nights and he'll be with his grandparents, who i'm sure will dote on him. it's not like you'd be leaving him with strangers.

go, have a nice time, relax. i'm sure you deserve it

Yes definitely.

And of you decide not to, do you think they might have my DD (age 3)? Her grandparents won't have her to stay, but will have DS - a while different thread!

I left my DS for two nights for my 30th with my parents. He was just one. He was absolutely fine and I had a ball. I did miss him but I had a great time and the memories of that time away have kept me going for months!

You are not being selfish. Enjoy.

Depends on the grandparents - my cannot be trusted to have sole care for more than 15 minutes (no ill intent or anything, just not capable), and DH's parents are capable, but very noticably completely wiped after a day with DS (also 2.8) when they stepped into the breach for us, so I wouldn't ask them to do a weekend.

But some are able and willing to do it, so if your DS is happy with them, why not ?

blametheparents - I sympathise!

I am very aware that we get a lot of help from my ILs. Some people have very little help and just get on with it. I admire them hugely. I NEVER complain about my MIL as she is wonderful helping us out. She does get something out of it though - a wonderful, close bond with my DS who adores his Granny.

Definitely go. Your DS will be fine. We started doing this when our son was about that age and really missed it last year when we had his tiny sister to think about. We will definitely be staring up again when DD is old enough. Go for it. I'm with Bristols on this one about the memories keeping you going for months.

I hate going to family friendly places without ds - I just keep thinking - he would love this, he would love that...

Would you love to just have a dinner alone with dh (and get a babysitter at the hotel) but have him around for the rest of your birthday?

There are things I would happily leave ds for, but this doesn't sound like one of them.

Oh I'm starting to feel really guilty now, I left my 2.4yr old for 4 DAYS so that dh and I could have a last holiday before we had another baby.

We went to Venice, it was divine.

He spent 2 days at my parents and then 2 days at ILs.

Oh, and I discovered I was pregnant 2 days before I went!

Leave him with them, it will be lovely for him and sets you up for overnighters in the future, always good!

twentypence - I see your point but I wouldn't feel happy about a stranger babysitting him, even in the hotel.

Argh! Was so set on this with my beaty/pampering treatments booked but now I feel torn

Then you go back to the original plan and have grandparents look after him. You hadn't mention beauty treatments - that makes it very different...

Don't feel torn - everyone will have a lovely time.

fizzylemonade - please don't feel guilty. I never have the self confidence to believe in my own judgements (particularly as a mum!) and so I read threads on here and automatically think I am wrong. I was fine about it until I read the thread about not leaving LOs overnight (which of course is fine)!

We left DD for two nights at my sisters house and she LOVED it!

twentypence- but I could get an Indian Head Massage without going away for 2 nights! I mean how ridiculous stressing about the choice between having 2 luxury nights away or having our DS with us, when there are mothers choosing whether to feed themselves or give their LOs more food.

we are doing a family holiday in the summer with all the cousins/aunts/uncles etc. he will love that! Although I will have a newborn by then!

Do you trust the GPs? Do you think your DS will have a good time? Are you overall happy with the idea? Then, go for it. YOu'll go on holiday with your DS again.

If you think your ds will be happy and safe with his grandparents then I would absolutely go for it! Have done the same thing myself (well, I went sailing but principle is the same) and had no regrets.

oh god yes!! without doubt, he will love it!

If you think he will enjoy being with GP's and they can cope with him (my mum would easily andhad tohave DS for awhole week 24/7 when I was in hospital), why wouldn't you go?

At three its a self delusion that our children are not best served unless we are with them every moment we can be.

I don;t leave DS overnight often but when I do he has a ball with my mum. It doesn;t do any harm for childrne to learn that they are safe with other people. They have to start expanding their world at somepoint.