How disruptive would a temporary move of home be for 2 year old?

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In short, we are considering renting our house out for 6-12 months and moving in with in-laws. Yes we are desperate!! This is to help us financially with some major repairs needed on the house, the idea being we would save the money we usually pay out on mortgage (as rent would be covering it). Difficulty is they live about 60 miles away, so it would mean me giving up work, taking DD out of nursery and DH staying with friends during the week. Financially it could work but are we being crazy for considering it? DH and I can cope with the sacrifice of not seeing each other every day if its temporary, I think I can cope with the in-laws but I am worried about uprooting DD from her home only to bring her back to it possibly 6 months later. Obviously this is dependent on mortgage lender agreeing to a let and actually finding a tenant.

It would be a disruprion, but living with the grandparents? What kid wouln't LOVE that! Children can be very adaptable and she will still have you with her.

Thanks nicky, that is a very valid point, she adores her grandma! But then would it create a problem for when we move back and she has to leave them behind?!

Hmm, she would miss them, but she would be going home and back to nursery.

It is hard, but might help if you can think of it in the long-term -what is best for you all in the long run. Also, life is full of moves and comings and goings. She will learn from these experiences and she will always have you by her side to help make sense of things for her.

We are int eh middle of selling and may need tolive with th ein-laws for a short time too, so I have been giving this kind of thing a lot of thought!

You are her security - so long as you cna be around to reassure her, she will do fine.

Yes that makes sense I guess, I would always be there. She doesn't see her dad that much on week days anyway as he works really long hours so we figured this wouldn't be too horrendous for her (probably more for him tbh). Hmm, maybe I just need to be less anxious about it and set her an example, that a house is just bricks and mortar after all and a move isn't the end of the world!

Thanks for your reply, hope your move goes well!

Yes, and you!

We moved country when dd was just 2, we were worried that it would really unsettle her, we had to leave 3 cats she adored and everything she knew. It took her about a week to settle down, I think looking back everything is so strange and new when you are that small that even quite drastic moves really don't make the kind of impression you might expect.
FWIW DH moved country at age 2 (Britain to the States) then back to UK for 6-8 months age 6, back to the States again then back to UK age 10 or 11, he seems to have survived it pretty well.

Takver, you know I hadn't even thought about it but DH lived in 3 different countries when he was little, and 2 different cities in the UK due to his dad's job. And I always think it helped him to be more chilled out about travel and better at socialising than me (who lived in the same house for the first 18 years of my life)!! Thanks for that perspective.

I think it will be fine. Between the ages of 2 and 3 my DD lived in 4 houses. Truthfully she remembers only the one we are in now. Don't worry.

Not very. They are quite adaptable at this age as long as they feel loved and secure.

It's good to hear some positive stories about moving with los.

Tbh, it can't be much worse than trying to show prospective purchasers or renters round with a messy toddler stalking!

OneLieIn, you are so right, she won't even remember it when she's older!

As ever, MN has helped put an over-anxious mind at rest, thanks all!

Ha ha nicky, that's the next step I have to face!

we moved out for 6 months whilst the house was being extended. DS1 wasn't bothered at all - most;ly beacuse we cleaned the new house and moved in over the course of 2 weeks AND regularly visited the old house to see how it was going