age gap between babies

[mummyofthomas]

hi im new so soz if dont use right words or whatever my boy is 4+half months old &have been feeling broody again since he was born lol. i know it could just be hormones and stuff but really would like another. had tough time with 3rd degree tear etc but am finally recovering now my friend has just told me she's preggers again and her girl is only 5 weeks older than my son and im sooo jealous.was just wondering what people thought of age gaps and how it worked for them? also r there medical implications to smaller/larger gaps? soz for huge thread thanks

only have 1 dd yet so no experience but just think about how old your ds will be if you got pregnant now ds would only be 14 months when new baby came along, could you cope with a newly walking toddler into everything and wanting to walk everywhere and also a newborn? some people could but i couldn't and have therefore opted for a bigger gap.

I have a son 2 1/2 when he was 6 months i was pregnant again with his brother, who is now 15 months. When ds2 was 9 months old i was pregnant again with the baby i am carrying now, so i will have 3 under 3 in a few weeks.

It has been hard work and i know its going to get harder, but the boys get on very well and are a pleasure being so close in age.

I had a c-section with both of them and it hasn't caused any problems medically so far, although my hospital won't let me try for a natural labour they have booked me in for another section this time.

I asked my doctor when i was thinking of try for my 2nd and he said there is no right or wrong time to wait. They like your body to ahve a chance to recover and because of my section he recommended not trying any earlier than 6 months after the previous baby.

Good luck

xxx

I have 12 months and 2 weeks between my 2. I t was hard at first but now they are neartly 2 and 3 it is great

I had 2yrs 2mths between ds and dd1 which was a lovely gap and worked well, I then had 12mths between dd1 and dd2 again works well but is hard work as the fight quite a lot. This time I will have 2.5yrs between dd2 and the baby so eldest will be 5 then dds will be 2 and 3 when baby is born.
Gaps have had pros and cons and this will be my biggest yet.

hello again, thanx for all the messages,just thought i would add that im a twin and have always (well almost always) loved it, so dont know whether that has anything to do with how i feel? eg would be nice for my son to be close with brother/sister.

Mummofthomas - I'm not a twin but my sister and i have 17months (and 4 days, as we've always said) between us, and when we were little people often confused us as twins, she caught up to my height very quickly.
I loved having a sister close in age, especially as we were growing older, and its great now.
DH is one of 3 boys and there is around 8 yrs between him and the middle child, he has always sai we shouldn't leave that big a gap wiht ours.

I think beign a twin probably has a lot to do with your choice.

hi diddle i think ur right, it prob has lot to do with being twin plus me and my sister had two friends in our class who were sisters with only 12 months! between them and they are really close too.i have an older brother 10years older and a sister 7 years older and we are all really close but cant beat the bond between me and my twin
DH is only child and think we would have our own five a side football team if it were up to him lol He is just as keen as me I know but he's more sensible e.g worries bout money etc (quite rightly).

I think if you can face it go for it. I personally think 14 months is a much easier gap then between 18m and 3. Your DS will still be sleeping during the day, so you will be able to rest. It won't interfere with potty training and by the end of 2 weeks he will have no memorey of not having a sibling IYSWIM. I couldn't have done it wanted my body and sex life back before trying for #2 sorry if TMI. Now thinking about #3

i had my ds2 when ds1 was23 months then ds3 when ds2 was 18months it was very hard work but worth it to be honest i wish id have had ds1 and ds2 closer together but now they r 8,6,5 and its great they do everything ogether and i now have dd 20 months which as being a doddle compared to the ds s so dont feel guilty but its not all roses ..but worth it ...

14 months between mine.

it was hell, 1st wasn't walking when 2nd was born

but they did get into a routine of naps at the same time (for a while)

now they're teens, very competitive with each other

Will be 15-16months between my 2 when this one is born.

Pregnancy has been quite hard. I am tired, have back ache, can't sleep but still get woken up by DD, find it hard to carry her but she can't walk.

This pregnancy wasn't planned, but I am glad we are having them close together. I am quite a young mum (21) and hope to go back to studying part time when the DC start school, possibly uni, or if not, just get my childminding buissness up and running properly and still work from home. Just like the fact that I will have a lot of choice in 5 years time.

Well I have ds who is 2.7 and dd who is 10mo and n may no.3 will arrive! 22mo between ds and dd and there will be 14mo between dd and ds2.

Am glad they will all be close as was an only child and have always wanted lots!

I've wanted another since A was a day old (not that he isn't fantastic, I just really want another to go with him!).

He's 4 1/2 months too but we're going to try from March, or slightly later if my maternity leave wouldn't pay up again until later (need to check).

Took 7 years for him to turn up so want to ttc ASAP, and I think there's pros and cons to all age gaps, smaller is better than most. But pregnant+toddler sounds a bit grim...

I have 19 months between my younger two and it is very hard work, but its worth it. I was so broody after I had DS2 and so DD might have come along sooner! The only down side is having to push a double buggy. I would love a Phil'n'teds but funds wont stretch that far at the mo!

thanks all for ur advice x
notcitrus congrats on ur little man and goodluck with the next one. strangely enough me and my other half have decided almost the same as u gonna leave it till march april and then start trying again,cant wait

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21 mths between ds and dd1, 25mths between dd1 and dd2, TTCing #4 now dd2 is 10mths. hard work, but wouldn't change it. There's prs and cons whatever the age gap.

whatever you do, try to make sure you have a strong support network in rl

Interesting question. My DS is also just over 4 months, and DP has been saying it's best not to have too big an age gap between numbers 1 & 2. I'd like to get married before having another one though

13 months between one & two (both female).... not that bad when small, they got into same routine quite quickly and had similar interests. Not close for a long time at school age but finally good friends as late teens

28 months between two & three (male), showed no real interest in each other at all. More friendly now as no 3 is entering late teens and have lots in common. one and three have never got on, though I'm still hopeful

21 months between three & four (female), no interest from no. three, very very close in primary, not so now and are the most competitive and always arguing, again am still hopeful. No. 1 & 2 very accomodating of no. 4 but just big sisters, no friendship there yet

My gaps are all quite small and I found pre school age much much easier than teenage