Will she ever do as she's told or am I doing the discipline thing all wrong??

[daisydora]

DD is 2.5, up to the arrival of DS 8 weeks ago she was not too bad in the tantrum stakes but had her moments.

At the moment she is just awful, everything she does seems to be just naughty. I start by telling her no and the reason why mummy says no. She carries on, if its with a toy or something I'll take the offending item away. I'm not one for smacking, so she usually ends up on naughty step or confined to her room (with toys removed) by a babygate. This normally results in out and out hysteria before she calm downs and apologise but she'll be up to no good an hour later and we start again. I just feel I'm constantly on her back.

We just had a right scene in the Tesco carpark as I wouldn't let her take her football in the trolley. So she literally threw herself on the floor, covered in dirty puddle water and screamed. I had DS in car seat and some woman asked if I needed help...she looked at me like I was a fool with no control over my DD (admitedly at this point Ihad lost control of her) and I was totally mortified

Am I expecting too much I know she's only 2.5 but I never see other peoples kids behave like this? Is it a phase that will pass? I feel like I'm doing the whole discipline thing wrong and am a pretty crap parent at the mo. Or is it an attention thing because of DS? I do try to spend as much time with her as poss so she's not jealous and do quality things with her.

Help/guidance anything appreciated.

"but I never see other peoples kids behave like this?"

probably because they hide away at home
Tis normal and will pass.

I just ignore dd1 when she behaves this way. People look at you with that 'been there done that' smile when you ignore it.

When you start shouting people look at you with that look of horror and often think you are a crazy person.

Next time just say "Once you have finished screaming dd we are going shopping" and then turn around and pay her no more attention. She will soon learn that there is no point having tantrums.

Oh and my dd1 and her tantrums at that age could have put yours to shame. Rolling on the floor is nothing. dd1 would throw herself screaming into walls/shelves/halfway up the freezer ailse screaming "don't hurt me mummy"

I just carried on with the shopping and she stopped doing it after a few weeks, she still has her moments but is generally much more restrained and will tell me why she is upset and we try to come up with a compromise.