He is just not ready is he ?

[rookiemater]

DS is 2 and 10 months. Tried potty training before christmas and had lots of pees and sometimes poos in potty but only when naked from the waist down, absolutely zero success when in pants.

Due to some health problems I had then gave up trying properly although still had nappy free time at home and encouraged at childminders to use toilet. He was doing well at this although seemed upset without his nappy and often asked to have it back on. I though today we would see how he got on with pants and trousers ( trackie bottom type ones so easy to get on and off ). Well I had zero success and we had 5 accidents, until I ran out of trackie bottoms and went back to pull ups.

DS would rather wear a nappy and tbh my general lazy inclination is to wait until the onus is coming from him rather than trying to force it. Do you think there is any benefit in persisting or should I just wait until he tells me he is ready ?

wait until weather is warmer they recommend to start with nothing from waist down for about a week then add a layer so pants for few days then loose trousers i started my ds again at 3.5 and went straight into pants and stayed dry no looking back since he stopped and started also but obviously was well ready last time and only has nappy if unwell or at night now

I left mine til he was ready!
My ds was three and abit but found had to leave pants off for a few days, when pants on always pee'd but after that he he was brill night time too, maybe leave him for awhile or you'll get stressed!

it can be a negative experience to have so many changes of clothes being wet etc thats why its easier to get them into routine of going first with nothing on then adding pants when got the hang of going by themselves so try again in a month or so and and remember if they do have accident dont make fuss just oh dear good try and sit them straight on potty or toilet and then leave naked from waist down

if they feel they are doing wrong they will want nappy for security so praise even if accident has happened so it stays a positive experience

I put DD back into diapers after she got extremely distressed by an accident (and tried to mop it up!)

i waited until, ds wanted no nappy on then i tried pants took him to pre school explained we had pants on took spare clothes etc picked him up bone dry and has been since maybe odd accident where he hasn't got to toilet in time but he was obviously ready

maybe when changing nappy make a habit of sitting on potty before clean one goes on so his confidence can build up

agree with bubblagirl wait until warmer weather
We had a few accidents with 'wee man' not pointing right way!!

PLumbummum, when you say you waited until he was ready, do you mean that he initiated it and asked not to wear pants ? I'm kind of hoping that will happen but perhaps it never will.I do try to keep it all low key and I certainly don't tell him off or anything when he has accidents.

I'd be ok about waiting for a bit longer but I'm getting the feeling from my CM and my Mum that they think he is ready. Clearly however they aren't the ones who actually have to do the dirty work.

Mums can sometimes want to rush things for you, but you will know, my ds did not like to wet his leg or carpet, when he had no pants on, then we progressed to pants with fav character on didn't want to get them wet either, and a sticker chart extra stickers for poo's!

See thats the odd thing PBM, when pant free he has no accidents at all and can use the potty for all peeing ( particularly when there are jelly babies involved), which is why I'm not sure why the next step is going so badly.

Not sure, just go to pants no trousers, maybe hes not getting them down quick enough, and prob better to try when your off and don't have to go anywhere for a few days

rookiemater my ds was completely dry with no clothes on it was getting him to tell me he needed a wee that was the problem so id use pull ups when going out and ask him if he needs wee when close to a toilet and then id take him in to do a wee did this for a few months before he actually said he needed a wee then he decided he didn't want nappy and from there we never looked back its probably a confidence thing

DS sounds exactly like yours bubblagirl.

We have been using pull ups when out so maybe I will stick with those, its just that various potty training gurus had said that pull ups would be confusing for them and stopped them distinguishing between clothes and nappies. Maybe I will just stick with them until he is ready to give them up himself.

PBM sadly my problem is that I am short of patience and the thought of staying in for a week with DS is quite scary, I did keep it as low key as possible with only one trip to the supermarket, but yes probably should try again with just pants.