how do you potty train a small boy who doesn't give a monkey's???

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he's 2.9 and we've only been trying for 2 days so I know it's early days. But he isn't bothered about being a big boy, getting a star for his chart or a chocolate button. He doesn't particularly mind peeing all over himself or the floor, is perfectly happy with poo in his pants and only willingly sits on the potty if the Tv is on or we read him a story.
It's been a long 2 days. We've had 3 wees in the potty, a total of 12 on the floor and 1 poo in his pants. The ones in the potty were because he'd been sitting there anyway by coincidence having a story rather than by design.
Tips, suggestions, moral support please.
p.s I don't think it's a "not ready" situation really as I think he'd never be willing whatever age we left it to so may as well get on with it.

Major bribe. Find something he really really wants and tell him he gets it when he's been wearing pants properly for 2 weeks.

too young for that delayed bribery.
wait.

I don't think that would work as longer term motivation seems to have even less affect than immediate iyswim. Just has no interest at all in doing anything other than what he fancies at that moment.

Ds1 was like this. He was 3.3 when we eventually got there. I despaired the day when he stood at his play table, playing with his cars - he was naked from the waist down, and he stood there peeing all over his feet and he did not even notice.

The Peppa Pig Rocket convinced him. I took him past it every time we went to Tescos, and kept saying "no, only when you can wear pants!".

And definitely go "cold turkey". No pull-ups. Don't give him the idea that you're going to give up!

I have to say, ds1 will be 4 in a couple of weeks, and he still regularly wets himself. He can't be bothered to go the toilet, and then eventually can't hold it anymore. Drives me bonkers. I spend my life saying "go to the toilet! I don't care if you need to go or not, just go and sit on it!".

Tonight, we've put him to bed without a nappy for the first time. We were waiting for him to have dry nappies in the morning, like you're supposed to, and concluded that he wouldn't ever - he's wearing a nappy so he uses it. So, we'll see ...

sounds exactly like ds. He only notices when his feet are dripping wet and makes no attempt even then to head towards the potty. Sending him to nursery tomorrow morning hoping they will magically be able to crack it. I suspect the 4 pairs of trousers and pants I've packed may all get used!
Total cold turkey here. Nappy only goes back on after his bath.

Actually, I was reading "2.9" as "nearly 3". It's not is it! Wait 6 months. He'll be older, and it will be summer, so you can pick a hot week and not worry if he wets his trousers when you're out. And you can take him outside and let him "water" the plants - that's usually a good incentive for boys.

Aah, nursery. Now that sounds like a plan.

Forget the potty & go straight for the loo.

My youngest dd wasn't interested at all at this age. In fact, she got upset if we took her nappy off. So we left her to do it in her own time just reminding her that she didn't have to wear a nappy if she didn't want to, she could use the potty instead.
At 3y4m she decided she didn't want to have a nappy. Used the toilet (bypassing potty) and was reliably dry 3 days later

Wait until summer.
DS wasn't bothered about 'being a big boy' until he was 3.3 but when he was ready it took 2 days.

A year ago people were telling me that I should wait, and it would take 3 days and be easy.

I waited, it took ages, it's still not easy. Given that, I wish I'd done it a bit sooner.

Ds1 is 3.11 and happily wears, and uses, his night-nappy all Saturday morning if we don't remember to get it off him. (I remember on the other mornings because he has to get dressed for school!).

He's been in pants for 8 months but if I'd waited till he was ready we'd still be waiting.

Hence the attempt to get him out of night nappies now, even though he is showing no signs of readiness - because I don't think he ever will!

He's not ready yet, wait until he shows signs of wanting to, it will cause you both a hell of a lot of grief to carry on.

A little boy I used to look after was 3 1/2 until he was ready. Don't push it.

fruitful, my dd would walk around in her night nappy all day if we didn't tell her to take it off. She would also wee in it if she left it on. We remind her to take it off as soon as she gets up. She does and then everything is fine the rest of the day.
Just one of those things, I think.

I know, it's just the "wait till they're ready and it will be easy" thing gets to me! Dd decided she was ready aged 25mo, it was a doddle. If we let him, Ds1 would sleep in a cot, ride in a pram, wear a bib, drink from a sippy cup, wear a nappy all the time ... He keeps telling me that he is "only a little bit big".

Fruitful, DD also decided she was ready earlier. But boys are different!