Fed up of potty training accidents - how long to stick with it?

[CardiffMum]

Started potty training my 30month son 3 and a half weeks ago. Still having up to 4 accidnets per day - has only said once or twice that he needs to go. Seems totally unaware of needing to go most of the time. After nearly a month of clearing up after accidents and coping with a 5 month old I am wondering how long to carry on before trying something else. He's been in pants since I started the training but there's only so much mess one stressed mum can take . Anyone got any thoughts on trainer pants? Really want to avoid putting him back in nappies so anyone think trainers any good? HELP

I used them with my son, and would really recommend them. They save all the clearing up, and each time you put him on the potty you can praise him up when all the pictures are still there (they disappear when wet), then when he is dry for most of the day go back to proper pants, saves a lot of mess and stress!

i would say put back in nappies his clearly not ready as the desire isnt there i know it would be convenient to do it now but your making more work for yourself as it isnt catching on we potty trained twice at 2.3 and at 2.9 and had to go back to nappies at 3.5 he was potty trained over night pants on and no going back

you can be at it for ages or just wait and try again later on when his body may be more aware believe me i didn't want to go back to nappies but im glad i did as when he was ready that was it just put pants on he stayed dry and has done since

i bought trainer pants spent 8 pound a pack and they felt just like a nappy for him so he weed it didnt work at all i would say wait start again in summer and then leave no pants on for a week and then add pants and the add trousers good luck dont stress about it it all works out when the times right

i'm on about the waterproof pants not pull up type pants but they arent that waterproof when doing a full wee so he was constantly soaked they really confused him them ones

I started with my DS when he was 2 yrs old,and he didn't have a clue.We spent weeks with 8 changes of clothes daily,and I got to the stage where my frustration was making me cross with him,which was against every "rule" of toileting,and every principle I had!

A friend of mine said STOP,and start again later.He's still young,and not starting school yet.

Even with your son you probably feel "pressurised" to get this done before school/playgroup etc. but I have learnt (the hard way) that when they are ready they are ready and will do it in 3 days.

So IME I would abandon it,put him into pull-ups or feel and learn etc. and leave it a month or so.Take your cues from him,if he wants to sit on a potty or use the toilet go with it,if he uses his nappy then fine.

Be relaxed with it, and restart it again when he gives you cues.You have already planted the seed,he'll probably get it really quick on second attempt.

It'll also take the pressure off you for a while,its alot to do with a young baby.

I applied this new found logic with my DD's,they let me know when they were ready,DD1 at 2.5yrs and DD2 at 21 mths.(Girls do seem quicker)

Why on earth would you not want to put him back in nappies? He is obviously too young. Potty training isn't difficult - you just have to wait til they are ready. Wait til he says "mum, I don't want to wear nappies any more" Then say "Ok darling, here are some pants"

Life's too short to struggle with something that will just happen naturally if you wait!

Don't want to abandon it completely as he is quite happy to go on the toilet or the potty when prompted and I've done the whole OTT praise and sticker thing but because he's very irregular it's impossible to avoid accidents just by putting him on at regular intervals. Don't want him to feel that he's constantly letting me down so will go with the feel'n'learn option for a while and revisit. Hopefully he'll think of them more as pants than nappies so we don't have to go back to the drawing board next time. Thanks for the advice (whoever said that dealing with poo and wee isn't so bad if it's your own kid's was SO wrong....)

Thing is, Cardiffmum, if he only goes when prompted and if you only manage to catch pees and poos in the potty if you're lucky, then he really sin't ready. if the bit of his brain that tells him he needs to go isn't connected up yet, then no amount of trying will work. Go back to nappies and relax for 6 months then try again. I promise it will be easier then. It will also be summer - so no clothes on outside will help. I really really isn't worth causing yourself any stress or worry over.

DD1 was nearly 3 when we did it. Go back to nappies and give it another shot in the summer like the others say.

If it's any help there's a kid in DD's preschool class who's still in nappies well inot his 3rd year. None of us other parents think any less of his parents because of it. It's just the luck of the draw.

if you use pull ups you can still take to toilet to do wees you can keep that going i did but for rest of time i used nappies when changing nappy i would sit on potty first i still kept that up but if there not ready to say i ned to go then its best nappy goes back on as it can become a negative experience for them other wise and stressful for you

just use pull ups and still take to toilet regularly but will save you from wet clothes all day and save him from finding it distressing when ds started taking his nappy off and saying no more i knew it was time

you could spend next 6 months with wet clothes you cant force them to become dry its something that just clicks or it doesn't so give it a break and next time you try could be alot easier and quicker