WHAT AM I DOING WRONG?????????????

[mumnotarobot]

Is there any mums here who have been through the same thing. I have good intentions but somehow always manage to mess it up/its making me incredibly unhappy. I am finding it hard to play all the roles, im mum... im dad...im friend...im teacher...im buddy...im disciplinerian...its all too much.
I am not enjoying it and thats not good. I love him but im not enjoying him. He doesnt help, hes so(??) i dont even know how to describe it. I dont know!! But i have to know and i am determine to get this right. But i need help.

Hi there - explain abit more I dont quite understand - him - hubby, child, baby?

my 6 yr old son...

You sound overwhelmed. Try and accept that you can't be perfect - at anything. You can only do what's your best at the time and that's fine.

BTW partners do things differently, but not necessarily worse. If you can accept this, your life does get easier

This will pass my dear! We've all felt this way!

thats the good bit, i know it will pass. But while im in it how do i love my son and enjoy him and enjoy the time we have now...as i do not want to regret this moment. But i feel like im killing myself to make it all 'right'. Im overitred mentally- i dont think he appreciates me or feels like im a good mum. He wishes i were cooler whatever that means.

You don't have to like your kids all the time. They can be irritating little wotsits and that's normal. Stop putting yourself under pressure. Whatever you did would not be right if he's over four - kids are just like that.

Why don't you agree to an afternoon of 'whatever you want' time - where he can plan out what he'd like to do (and that would be 'cool' obviously ) and do that. If it works out do it once a fortnight.

That way you both have something to look forward to where you can feel like an ubermummy and he knows he gets to do something he really wants to?

lol thank for making me laugh. Thats a good idea. I think the thing is because most of my mum friends who arent many, let their kids do whatever they want, eat whatever they want and speak however they like. And i on the other hand, wont tolerate rude behaviour. That doesnt mean im not fun, but i guess that makes me uncool. But great idea...just hope it works.

Anymums from islington here? Im looking for a close buddy for him also, maybe i might make a great firned out of it, who knows. Please feel free to send me a message.

Thanks all

You want to post on your local site to find mums from your local area (see local at the top of the page!)

You are a good mum because you set limits - good for you - your friends will reap what they have sown about age 12 when their little tearaways get their first ASBOs! It's hard being the one who says no (I'm that person in my marriage) and DH just caves (bless him, he's a sucker for DD who bats her eyelashes and says 'pllleeeeassee daddddyyyy') and it is tough. But you know, they do respect you for it.

Eventually!

awww im a sucker for batting eyelids i must confess. I sometimes find it hard to keep a straight face and see thorugh that you mean buisness when they do their cutesy thing that the know so well to do.