Potty training <sigh> How long?

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Into 4th week. Dd is 2.5. She knows when to poo, but prefers to wait until she has a nappy on when we go out . She will go on potty, but prefers going in nappy or floor....but she understands what is happening.

Weeing...always on floor/sofa etc. Will go on potty after, but not making connection. Informed me she was "leaking" today when she flooded the sofa

She wears pants in house, and pullups when we go out....but am sick of staying in, all the time...

Should I just give up, and try in a few weeks?

YES!

She doesn't sound ready at all

But I am in the 'wait til they tell YOU they want to train camp'

Someone will be along soon to tell tales of chocolate-button bribery and regimented toiletting

This sounded like DD we left her and making significant progress now.

I'm feeling your pain....DS3 is 2.9 we have been at it for 4 weeks. He will stay dry for hours, but is witholding it all until I put a nappy on him. I can't see this is healthy. We had our first breakthrough yesterday evening when he told his 7yo brother that the wee was coming and his brother managed to get a potty to the right place at roughly the right time. Huge celebration all round.

Its grim isn't it.

Grim is the word......the flood went onto cushions on sofa, my dressing gown, her pyjamas, AND pile of clean clothes which she was going to wear.

What is it with the nappy? Dd told me she was scared of losing her pooh in the potty, so am now convinced I have raised an anal retentive child, and it is MY FAULT

But if we leave it and start again, will I lose the pooing progress IFYKWIM, which she is doing sometimes, she certainl knows that she wants to go, and will oblige sometimes.

All the time, I am thinking she starts pre-school in September, which I know is a looong way, but she will only just be 3 then

she doesnt sound ready

but nappies / pull up really confuse them IMO

either go for it in pants at all times (while awake) or dont bother at all

"pooing progress" Such delicate terminology

I know a few dc who were left until they were ready (around the 3yr mark)

They simply announced they didn't want nappies anymore... clean and dry within the week (1 on the first day and ever since )

It's just too much stress and hassle to be constantly reminding them to go to the loo... then it becomes a battle if they say "no" but so obviously do need to go... and you are constantly clearing up wet pants and doing shedloads of laundry

I'd leave it and try in a couple of months. She's still only little

But NannyL, what do you do if you go out, and they wee everywhere?

I only put pull-ups on when we go out, and take them off when we come back inside. But have tried avoiding ging out to help matters.
But have cabin-fever a bit now!

Agree that pull-ups confuse them

I agree they probably confuse her, but how do I go anywhere?

Well, this is my point...

Stick her back in a nappy or pull-up full time again until she's ready!

IMO if a dc cannot say or indicate clearly "I need a wee/poo" then they are NOT ready for training

Starting to realise they are doing a wee or are about to do a wee is only the beginning, IMO

They need to know a bit in advance

Yes, I sgree...

But d is very very stubborn, and contrary, and I suspect she is doing all of this on purpose sometimes.

She knows when she wants a poo, of that I am certain, weeing is more of a moot point, but I suspect she knows about that as well.

She just prefers not to use her potty or toilet....

if you ewant to go somewhere...

you buy a pack of pampers caremats that you use to line car seat / buggy / shoppung trolly / grannys sofa or whatever and take wipes and a few pants / trousers etc in a bag with you.
also take a potty (i had nirmally use a fold up one which is great for travelling) and get on with it!

also use loo before you leave the house and as soon as you get to where you are going and it probably wont be as bad as you imagine!

I speak from experience, btw...

DD1 had numerous phases of regression after initially doing v well (wetting not pooing)

It depends on what sort of person YOU are, imo

I got very fed up with the constant battling and reminding and clearing up... dd1 was also v stubborn and did not respond to the usual strategies of bribery/reward charts

I would give up while you can (ie she's not actually been 'trained' yet) and start afresh when she seems more ready for it

I am dreading tt dd2

to be honest if you are 4 weeks in and its still as bad as in OP she doesnt sound ready at all

i would go back to nappies for a month or more (maybe easter,) and then start again...

with pampers mats / fold up potty etc all ready to go!

What I meant to say was, if you do not get stressed by the hassle aspect of lots and lots of accidents, then go for the training!

But if you find it a bit of a PITA (and even more so when out) then abandon NOW!

Must confess i subscribe to the benign neglect model of toilet training. I do feel DS3 needs to feel the chill wind whistling through his wet trousers to make the penny drop that using the potty is a better experience than wetting your pants in the school playground when picking up your brothers. I don't overly stress about nagging him to sit on the pot at home. We have wooden floors and the only sofa he is allowed to sit in at the moment is the one in the childrens playroom .

I know DS3 is ready and he is playing games with me, he started nursery this week (just 2 1/2 hrs per day) and hasn't wet there once. DS1 was like that too- dry for nursery - a veritable hosepipe at home. I'm too far down the line to put him back in nappies and I don't want him to lose what he has already achieved. Nursery wouldn't be overly impressed either.

I found pull ups very useful as a pre-potty training tool. I used them as nappies but still took ds to the toilet as they are easier to get up and down than normal nappies. Once he got to the stage of telling me he needed the toilet while wearing the pull up and could hold it till we got to the toilet then I put him in pants. He is 2.3 years and has been in pants in the house and going out for a month or 2.