I've been a devoted attachment parent since my son was born. I've breastfed on cue, co-slept, and generally responded to his needs (and desires, within reason). He's gone through the typical phases of separation anxiety when he was about 9 months, and has been needy and more clingy when getting in a tooth, ill, or tired/hungry, just like you might expect. Once all of the teeth came in, and if he's fed/well-rested and healthy, there came a point at about 14-15 months when he'd go to anyone else, when dad and nana could settle him almost as easily as me, and when he didn't throw a complete fit when I left a room or need to be in my arms most of the time.
Suddenly, in the last six weeks or so he's become incredibly needy for me once again. He asks for boobie two dozen times a day or more, and suckles throughout the night. He gets very upset if I leave the room (a lot of the time) and won't settle to sleep with his dad or his nana. It's becoming very tiring (as you might imagine), as I often cannot sit in a chair or get anything done if we're in the same room without him wanting to sit on my lap or pick up my hand so I'll come with him somewhere, to play or whatever.
Last night was the worst everhe woke up at 10:30pm, and DH went to comfort him. He wouldn't stop cryinghe kept sobbing and getting more and more worked up until he made himself vomit. Even my mother couldn't settle him or calm him down, and he didn't stop until I came and gave him boobie. Then he slowly calmed down and fell asleep.
What's going on? I've been so committed to AP because I want to raise a more secure, independent kid, but somehow I feel that I am sabotaging him from developing into that...and this is what my DH and mum suggest. They think some tough love is in order. What do you think?
At wit's end, thanks in advance.