I'm a bad mummy

[fifitot]

My 2.5 DD can be very trying = all toddlers are but during my attempt to get her down for her nap she was really being a pain and I really lost my temper, grabbed her and threw her on the bed, shouting at her to 'go to sleep'. I feel terrible now. I don't do this on a regular basis, in fact I work very hard not to get riled by this kind of situation but am suprised at myself.

Please reassure me I'm not the only one to do something like this! I didn't hit her and don't think I ever would but it wasn't a nice thing to do and she was upset = though so was I.

You are not the only one - toddlers can be very trying to say the least.
Did you explain to her afterwards why you got upset?
Do you think she might be dropping her afternoon nap?

Don't worry as long as she is OK, you showed that you were carefull and did not "lose it".
I did that once with my DD1 when she was almost 3yrs old and she was totally refusing to go to bed at night and had been doing it for almost 5 days in a row, and i literally threw her on the bed which made me cry as well.
We had a nice long chat and she was just scared of her bedroom, so the next day we moved all the furniture round, got a new nightlight and bedcovers and she has been fine since.
Everyone feels out of control sometimes, but the difference is that we still try and keep our DCs safe. Its the people who hit their children in the face or worse that are the worry.
Hope you are both feeling better now.

Thanks. She's fine I just feel guilty. I need to get less exasperated but it's soooo hard! Trying times....

I think we've all been there, dont worry. It takes a lot initially but after a while it becomes routine but do this...

walk out of the room, sit down and imagine what it would be like without the DC/DCs.

Once you've got past the fantasies of sleep filled nights and no stress about babysitters or obsession with poo you will have calmed down.... promise !

My dd is 2.4 and going through a phase at the moment where it can take 30 mins to get her dressed, followed by another 30 mins to get her out of the front door. She says "no" to everything I ask her to do, wakes up at the crack of dawn every morning, and is generally very hard work! I think it is easy to "lose it" with them and I have shouted at her so much over the past few weeks. It doesnt help that DH is away in America on a course for another 4 weeks so its just me and her. I always feel guilty when I shout at her and she does get upset, but also at the same time, understands that I am cross and when we have both calmed down she always says sorry and asks me if I'm still her best friend!! She also gets lots of cuddles, kisses and lots and lots of playtime with me so she knows that I'm only grumpy with her when she's naughty. Doesn't seem to stop her though...!

Janjas, maybe the best thing to do is to ignore the bad behaviour and if she won't get dressed just tell her she will got out in her PJ's or naked if she has to. Take the clothes with you and just basically double bluff her.
If she says no, just ignore it and repeat clearly what you WANT her to DO, and not what you DON'T want her to do.
Also when it comes to anything that you need her to do, give her a choice, Do you want to tidy up the toys OR tidy your bedroom?
It takes practice but in the end you will get her doing what you want without her even knowing!

With the clothes situation, I have threatened to go out on my own ie if we are getting ready to go to playgroup I'll say "get dressed for playgroup or I'll go without you" and she just replies "bye bye!". Your idea of choices is good, will try that one!