What am I supposed to do...

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with a very strong-willed (to say the least) DD2, who refuses to wear nappies during the day but is clearly not ready for potty training? She's 2 y 2 m. Yesterday I thought we were getting there but today we are back to random wees on the floor.
Potty training DD1 took weeks if not months and I was determined to get it right this time. I can't face mopping the floors for so long again!
She "knows" what to do (what do you do when you need a wee? POTTY!) but just doesn't seem to do it.

I am having exactly the same problem with ds (my first so no previous experience to go on!) who is 2.5 and insisting on wearing pants, although I can just about get him into pull-ups to go out. No indication that we are getting there at all - lots of random puddles! No advice but you are not the only one!

Oh dear, that's a PITA

Does she ABSOLUTELY refuse to wear a nappy? What about those nappy-pant things with princesses and things on them?

I admit I haven't tried such things - not even seen them! (Must go to shop and have a look, clearly.)

Sainsbury's do Disney Princess pull-ups, definitely

Worth a try, surely!

can you do the cod-bootcamp thing where rather than expecting her to ask when sh eneeds to go, you say 'potty time!' every hour and sit her on it regardless
stay for 5min and read a book or something
lots of praise and whooping (or chocolate button if you are incentive bribe friendly) if she wees, no comment if not

Hmm. That is kind of what I did with DD1 - I was pg so I just took her every time I went myself! Still took ages ;)
Re bribing, she now sits on the potty and shouts chocolate! So I think she's got the idea.
I think she maybe knew I'd posted, as although she's had 2 wees on the floor today, she just did a poo in the potty! So who knows, maybe we will get there.

That sounds Hellish, Mrs Badger!

I,m with mrs badger.Sadly potty training is,nt always easy.My daughter was,nt interested at all and would,ve happily have stayed in nappies forever!as for pooing what a nightmare!.I would make the most of the fact she does,nt want to be in nappies and even put her in knickers.Iknow theres going to be lots of accidents as mrsbadger said if you put her on the toilet every hour shes bound to sometimes have a wee or something then if she sees the praise she gets for being a clever girl hopefully she,ll start catching on.We had a chart a sticker everytime she done a wee wee oh and the wee wee on the potty song and dance!!!lol

Where does one find the time to put a child on a potty every hour?

Hell would have frozen over before I'd achieved this with dd1. If she said she didn't want to go, she didn't go... on the occasions I tried to 'make' her sit on the potty, she had a full-on meltdown. And no amount of chocolate would have changed that. Soooo not worth the grief, IMO

Memories of toilet-training dd1 are returning to me as I type

My Ds was easy as he was a Summer baby and we started on his 2nd birthday...he wore only a t shirt and it wasn't every hour I asked him, it was every 10 minutes! but he only took 4 days to potty train and was using the toilet within 2 weeks. I left it a further 6 months before going for nappy free nights though.

Dd is now 2 and wont go near the potty really and screams if I attempt to put her on the toilet(with a child seat on), so I don't think she's ready just yet.
Whoever said boys were harder/lazier than girls?

Good luck with it, I'll be watching with interest.

Hi

With our DS we started leaving the potty about the living room from when he was about 18months old and he just got used to using it for himself(my friend also done the same as only 6 weeks apart) and then on Xmas day we decided it was time to venture out with big boy pants on, he had 2 accidents that day and has only had 1 accident since and altough I'm still putting a pull up on at night they have been dry when he gets up in the morning but still not chancing the night time yet. My DS is 2y4m.

Michelle

Michelle you have the right idea IMO. Get them used to the idea of the potty LONG before you think of training. IMO you can't start too early - catch those 'early morning nappy off cold air makes them wee' and encourage them to sit on the potty before bath, and when you see the red face and grunting even as young as 2-3 months get that nappy off and catch it in the potty.
Then when you DO decide now is the time for pants you don't have a strong willed resistant to change and 'I have always weed and pooed in a nappy so I will continue to do this' stroppy individually minded toddler to deal with! well done you!

Potty training too early can cause prolapse. I had this conversation with my HV as my mum kept on at me to 'hold her over the potty' at a few months old. HV was horrified and said that prolapse can occur if you do this too early.

prolapse of what?

Um...not to be rude but you do know that prolapse thing is nonsense don't you?! HVs make it up as they go along as far as I can tell!

My HV is the best afaic. Yes, I do know what prolapse is and it's very feasible that a young baby with virtually no muscle tone/control could very well get a prolapse. I'm sure it is probably a rare occurance, but not impossible.

I'm not disagreeing that a young baby might (rarely) suffer such a thing. I fail to see how using a nappy would prevent it?

Not the nappy, but the position of the baby.

How is that position different from sitting a baby on your lap?

Because when a baby is held over a potty, there is nothing underneath to support. Your knee would be taking the weight. The whole dynamic is different if you think about it.

ah. i'd have thought when holding a baby on the potty, you were holding them in a sitting position on it - otherwise why not just hold them over the toilet if they aren't sitting?

you can tell i haven't got near this stage of parenting...

Put a large quantity of cherry tomatoes in a carrier bag not too tightly packed iyswim, wrap it and seal it then hold the bag at either edge. What will happen? the tomatoes will fall to the middle and if there was a hole at the centre...it's like when you are giving birth...gravity helps when you are upright.