so when did your LO start sleeping through the night?

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and how did you do it??

perhaps they genuinely don't mind if their DC climbs into their bed in the night?

I know my BF didn't mind her DD climbing into their bed at around 3am in the morning (she often didn't realise until they all woke up in the morning anyhow).

4months. all three.

IMO a three year old is little more than a baby. Yes, they can do lots of things that a baby can't but on the grand scale of things they are still very young.

You are happy with your situation, and I am happy with mine. Surely that is all that matters?

Seriously? Children can sleep through the night? .

I don't think you are "just shit" but you do seem to have an attitude problem.

Maybe it is the sleep deprivation. Or were you always incapable of sustaining a civil conversation?

You asked why I am surprised, and I answered.

Surely you know that co-sleeping with a 3 yr old and breastfeeding him through the night is far enough outside the norm that people are bound to be when you tell.

This is not to say, of course, that you should change anything. As long as you are happy, and your DS is happy, and your DP is happy, then it is great that you have found an arrangement that works for all of you.

Ds - 6 weeks
Dd - Still waiting, she is 3 soon and still gets up once a night around 3am

Cote - I think that you have had a child that your method worked for. Different things work/don't work for different children. Some children wake up in the night needing to be with someone. For some it doesn't work to "explain to a 3 yr old why he is now a big boy and big boys sleep in their bed, and here's teddy to hug him through the night".

In answer to the op, we could more or less rely on our children sleeping through at around 3yo. Some were a lot earlier, one was a lot later.

12 days and 6 weeks.
My definition of sleeping through was I stayed up untill 11pm giving them a bath and a BF then they slept to about 6-7am.

I have an attitude problem.

I'm really very upset by that
I haven't attacked anyone and I wasnt being rude
I dont co sleep with a three year old
I co sleep with gecko who is 22 months
It isn't completely by choice but I stand by the decision that as I have made her 'security and happiness' dependant bf then I think it is mean and out of order to suddeny whip it away
I really am shocked that you feel I have an attitude problem

really upset

Co-sleeping is fine for families who have chosen it. I don't believe your mock shock Cote, you've been on MN long enough and must have heard of families sharing a bed with their children before - I think you're stirring.

It's quite normal for everyone to wake in the night and when they are little, children often need help to settle back to sleep. It's up to the parent whether and for how long they choose to do this. It's quite normal in co-sleeping families for the child to enjoy breastfeeding during the night. Most children will grow out of this if left to their own devices or gently encouraged.

i don't remember reading "can i have your opinion on what I am doing"

Please be nice - we are all supposed to be adults here.

about 75% of babies sleep through (6 hours is considered to be sleeping through by "experts") at about 12 weeks old.

Some are younger, some are older

My DD was 4 weeks {grin], my ds1 was 12 weeks (very bad colic and mild reflux) and DS2 was nearly 4 months old but I think that may be due to him awful reflux - poor chap

oh 3 was about the age ds1 started sleeping through, as well

don't know yet with ds2 - he is 5 months

Around 10 months. He was a nightmare when I stopped BF but now after a few months of 8-100 wakes per night, he soon got into a routine.

Cote, anyone who I have told that ds and I co sleep and breastfeed during the night has kept their shock to themselves, that's of course if any of them have even been shocked.

It is ds's norm, and he and I don't really care if it is considered the norm or not. Like you said yourself, it is great that we have found an arrangement that we are all happy with.

FAQ - sometimes on nights when ds has come through to me, rather than me to him, I have woken up in the morning to find him latched on and I have no idea how long he has been there! So I can identify with your friend!

Last week! 20wks old (BF up to 18wks). His sibs both slept through from 8wks (both formula fed.) Can't help making that taboo connection...

Cote, I usually find myself agreeing with you
so this is a rare departure from the norm:

Sleep training is an option, not compulsory.
There are other options - like extended co-sleeping -
that are equally excellent depending on what works for the family.

It really is horses for courses and blinkers are not helpful.

DD1 - 8-8 at 8 weeks
DD2 - 12months only after I went on nightime boob strike
DD3 - is only 5 months showing no signs of sleeping through

For me personally if a baby needs to wake in the night and have a little feed then it's no big deal, I would never sleep train a baby before a year but thats my personal opinion so don't flame me.

At the end of the day it's whatever works for you and your baby, sod everyone else.

I didn't say it's compulsory. Quite the contrary - if all are happy, great. I said as much to mawbroon.

I said this thread should be linked to discussions where people say "sleep training is cruel, they sleep through when they are ready" because it shows that may be when they are 2 or 3 years old.

Children will sleep through when they are ready and for some no amount of 'sleep training' will change that.

That is, well, your opinion.

ds slept through from about 4 weeks apart from a bout of colic. I also found that he slept through having switched to bottles at night due to bf problems although I assume that's to do with him being prem & it being easier for him to get properly full with a bottle. I'm definitely a believer in sleep training & have gone back to our technique after ds has been poorly or teething & got out of sync.

Respect!

dd1 - 8 to 8 by 8 weeks
dd2 - 11-6 at about 12 weeks
ds - he is 8 weeks and is still waking 1-2 times/night for a 'snack'. he's a big boy, 15lbs., 11oz. and 26 inches long.

haven't had to sleep train any of them, fortunately.