Can anyone give me some advice?

[Sammy82]

I nearly lost my son when he was 6 weeks old, thankfully I got him to A&E 2 minutes before he stopped breathing. They managed to resusatate him but it was touch and go for a couple of days. After being in and out of hospital for 3 months afterwards he is doing really well and is a fit and healthy 6 month old. The thing is, it has really left my self-esteem trailing on the floor. I feel like I'm feel like such a failure for not realising he was so ill and so lucky that I got him there on time. How will i ever get over this? And if so how?

have you talked to your gp about this? or been offered any councelling?

SOunds like a traumatic and terrifying event.

I would go and see if you can get help to work thru it from your gp.

oh poor you - you got your son in the right place at the right time. Thats all that matters. Please try not to be too hard n yourself, he is healthy and here for Christmas enjoy every single minute

Gosh - that sounds terrifying. I'm afraid I don't have any advice but just remember you got him to hospital in time and you did what you could for him based on the what you felt was right. And you know what - you were right to take him to hospital when you did so please try not to beat yourself up about it.

Definitely see if counselling may be an option to help you rebuild with your self esteem and parenting support.

But you got your son to A&E in time. Most new parents would have been in the same position as you if their child had become ill - no baby comes with a user's manual, and few new parents are confident & knowledgeable about childhood illnesses/first aid.

You are being really hard on yourself - when you should be congratulating yourself for getting your son to medics in time, and for caring for him afterwards so that he is now fighting fit.

But if you need professional help to come to terms with this terrifying experience, don't feel embarassed to ask for it.

Have a happy xmas with your beautiful DS.

You got him there. You did what you had to and in doing so became a super mum in my opinion.

I have never been in that situation thankfully, but when my friends 3week old dd was projectile vomiting I took them to hospital. Turns out she needed an operation. After being at the hospital going to the childrens ward etc I was traumatized. I hugged my dd and ds all night long. I have no idea how my friend got through it.

And so I think you are amazing for just getting through it. You are in no way a failure. One day something will happen, you will do something, probably very mundane but it will make you feel like the great mum you are.