nearly 4 yr old DD still not wanting to say when she needs the toilet, any ideas?

[paranoidmother]

Hi

My DD who will be 4 in a month has been using the toilet for about a year. She is fine on any journey and when we're out & about but as soon as she's at Nursery or home she won't say when she needs the toilet.

We've tried sticker charts etc and i'm trying it again. However when you say so why did you get a sticker today ' Because it's Monday' is the type of reply I get. She's quite intelligent (or so I think so) but seems to be totally oblivious to potty training and continuing it.
Nursery are really good about it and patient but I want to get it through to her that she just needs to go and then she can come back and do whatever it was she was doing.

Anyone got any ideas or been through the same thing. She still has a nappy at night as I want to crack the daytime thing first before tackling the night time.

Thanks

Is it because it interrupts something more exciting? My dd (4) waits til she almost wetting herself and then has to leg it to the toilet. She thinks going to the toilet is boring and moans when I suggest she might need to go

this is what worked for my then 3 year old who hadbeen potty trained since 23 months but got 'lazy'

1. praise for using the loo
2. if she says she needed the loo then STOP what ever is that shew as doing... and wait for her to return

If she had an accident then:
everyone else continues as normal and she MISSES OUT...
after and accident she would have to

GO IMMEDIATLY to toilet (no 'in a moment' etc)
remove her wet clothes HERSELF (which she found difficult but could do, when she tried)
then sit on the toilet nd 'try some more'
TAKE wet clothes to the laundry basket
GO to her bedroom and BE GIVEN BY ME her next clothes (the most boring plain white knickers in the drawer and her least favourite trousers (in the morning he could choose what she liked)
BACK to toilet to put on wet clothes BY HERSELF (which she foun difficult and took a while but could do)
THEN wash her hands...

all of above with no comments communication other the the bare minimum
of 'take off your clothes' 'put them in laundry basket' etc

basically it would take her about 3 mins to go to the loo (and she didnt miss out)
and 15 mins to have an accident, and she missed out on what ever else was going on

was sorted within a week

Thank you

It's what I thought I would try but it's nice to know it happens to others as well.

Thank you. perhaps we'll have cracked it by Christmas.