Difficulty letting go of DD2 to start school

[JSEA]

I have been esp weepy this week as it's my DD2s last week at preschool before starting school in jan. We only have 2 kids so she is my baby. We are very close as i have been a SAHM for 11 years with my kids. I have got some work lined up for january but now I think i just want to be at home to settle her into school and be there. She only goes till lunchtime for the first term. I think esssentially I don't want my years of being at home with kids to be over and i'm kind of grieving for the time past and finding it difficult to move forward. Does anyone else feel this or have any experience of this? As the work is only casual i am thinking of letting them know ASAP that i don't want it. Help! I don't know what to do for the best.

I know what you mean!! My ds is an only child and he is my baby . He started school full-time in September and I am still finding it hard (although lots better than at the beginning!). I think it is a kind of loss, as this marks the start of their independence from us, which is totally as it should be but ..!

I have been looking for a part-time job, and I was offered some temporary Christmas work at M&S, but I decided to say no, as I want to be around for ds during the holidays.

I think that you should do whatever works for you and your dd (as long as you are not completely desperate for money!) and make the most of this time, and pick her up at lunchtime. This way you'll be able to enjoy your couple of hours in the morning, and look forward to picking her up. She'll be full-time soon enough...

Good luck .

Thanks Fluffybubble. Just been to collect her and shed a tear at preschool. Trying not to let DD2 see how upset i am but it's just beneath the surface and if anyone asks me how I am a tear rolls out. Ii think the problem is that although I went to uni etc I have never really been ambitious and just wanted to be a mummy and now i feel that the role I love is going to change so much. I am anxious about her settling into school and want to be there. It's encouraging to know that you feel better with time passing.

My DS started school in September and although I was dreading it I've been amazed by how much I've enjoyed being back at work. I also have two children (but have always wanted more!) so I know it does feel like the end of an era. Maybe you should just wait till she starts full time before you start working?

I have decided not to start work until DD2 is at least in FT school. I feel better for making that decision altho I know some friends and family think I should have started work. Last day of preschool today. It's the party so DD2 is in high spirits. Trying to put on a brave face but i know it won't last long :-(