As a mum,do you ever get fed up of being the "Big bad wolf" and disciplinarian?

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I do.

DP is just so soft.He never says "No" to them.It is always me that is the bad cop.

Like tonight.Had told ds 4 times it was bedtime.He was playing with Lego.So was stern mummy.Dp said 2Oh don't be so hard on him!" and sent him up to bed,plus box of Lego AARGHHHH!Which I then had to go and remove,to tears,and ds telling me he didn't love me like Daddy and I was horrible.

AAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH

I mean,I must be blardy awful,musn't I?

I am the one who washes,irons,cooks,makes nativity costumes,goes to parents evenings,goes on school walks and school fayre,makes sarnies,and so on.

GRRRRRRR!

It's not fair of your husband to undermine you, you need to have a word.

Oh, yes "Dad is great" "Dad never shouts"

Dad is never bloody here, that's why!

My ex just sees ds and dd at the weekend-so they are spolit then whilst I have to drudge alone with the day to day stuff.

So very large bad cop here

Nope. Suits my personality. Daddy doesn't undermine me, I'm just a lot scarier!

Oh I totally agree, DH quite often says 'she can't help it, she's two' when DD decides to smear food or indeed throw food or my pet peeve, rip books. Now to me, she's old enough to be told 'no, that's not okay' and have the food/book taken away.

He just doesn't want to hear her tantrums I reckon. It really pisses me off.

He shouldn't undermine you like that. You need to agree on general routines for things like bedtime (which are always a minefield).

I have been working on this with dh and I think I have just about got him trained (dd is now 3.5 and her tantrums - often but not too frequent - are so scrary that even dh realises the need for consistent boundaries). But he is so soft - I've always been the bad cop. Someone has to do it.

I spend all day with DS, 6pm DP walks in and DS gets all clappy and excited and his first words are daaaa (which I think means Dad!)!!

I put it down to me spending all day saything things like "Charlie, NO!!"

He's got a right old cold at the minute and refusing to eat so meal times are a total battle and DP walked in after 30 mins of DS not eating and he said "he's one, how hard can it be to feed him?!" BE MY GUEST! Cut to DP COVERED in dinner!!