if you have lost your temper to a toddler under one..irreparable damage?

[bumbly]

several times quite bad...will that influence his psyche/future/character forever or will he forget....

will try so hard to not moan/raise voice at his moans/winging/tantrums though it will be hard work veyr hard work as he is very hard work!!! (see other thread)

damage to you? maybe, cos it feels rotten, esp for a perfectionist like yourself.

for him? i dout it, i can't believe you didn't shower him with kisses 10 sec after

damage to him!!!

i am damaged as of many years!!

true actually i do then sometimes turn nice though past few eeks after raising voice i havwe kind aleft room in tears leaving hubby to deal wiht lo....not good i know!!!

I haven't seen your other thread and don't know anything about you/your toddler....

I just wanted to say - no, no permanent harm done but you will need to learn strategies to deal with this sort of situation....and fast......it won't get much better on the moaning/tantruming front for quite some considerable time if your toddler is anythig like the rest of them! Don't beat yourself up - just learn, and move on...

Good luck!

(PS we all lose control every now and then you know!)

thanks - have lost contorl last few months - but am detemrined ot rectify as of now!!!!!

Bumbly - you really remind me of me and DS He's now nearly 5 and still wants to know me . If his sleep is good enough that you can tiptoe into his room at night, nip in now and whisper into his sleeping ear "your're a fantastic person and very much loved". Or something like that. Always makes me feel better

Sometimes I used to put myself in a time out when I was having a very bad day.

DS2 is now 8 and lovely and we have a really great relationship. He was the most difficult baby though. He was sickly, on antibiotics and he developed an ear-splitting high-pitched scream that would come from nowhere and would fray your nerves. To my shame I once slapped his cheek to stop him screaming and to make him cry because I thought it would be easier to deal with..He was only a baby. I still feel guilty about it now, but he loves me and is a really happy, lovely child.

It will be OK but if you're regularly getting to that pitch of desperation then you need much more support for yourself.