Quick, I need a 'How to talk' solution for this!

[NoPresentsInVictorianSqualor]

I have just noticed Dd has cut holes in her school jumper
I want to go mental, so I need someone to tell em a nice calm way that will get through, she is not to think she is getting away with it!

How old is she? Depending on age, I would be inclined to let her go to school in the increasingly ragged jumper until she grows out of it or teachers tell her off.

She cares not a jot about personal appearance.

You could have a word with her teacher about telling her off for flouting uniform policy etc.

Or make her mend it, or pay for a new one via pocket money or chores.

Either way, I wouldn't get into a row about it - just make her deal with the consequences of her actions.

I would sit down with said jumper next to her and say " oh no , your school jumper has holes in it, That makes me really upset" see if you get a reaction then sometime later " I really don't understand how these holes got here, it was fine this morning"
Then follow her lead and see if she can come up with a suitable outcome

You could start with "DD, there are holes in the sleeves of your school jumper." (describe the situation).

Then move on to "I feel very angry because the jumper I bought for you has been spoiled." (describe your own feelings).

Get her to suggest solutons?

Inclined to agree with TPL, too.

We've done the 'DD there is a hole in your jumper' she said straight away that she cut it with scissors.

Everyone seems to want to be so "nice" about it. If this was my dd, I would explain in no uncertain terms, why it not acceptable to do such things, and what will happen as a consequence.

Not everyone, but some.
I like the how to talk method, it stops me exploding which is something I don't want to do.

But, Pantofino, VictorianSqualor asked specifically for a 'How to talk' solution, and 'How to talk' is predominantly "nice".

I've written a letter to the head asking her if she can address it in school, DD can deal with exterior consequence.