DS just attacked me and his dad.

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He ignored me twice ,when I told him that he could not go on the DS ,5 mins later I turned around and he was on it so I told him to go to bed ,he just carried on sitting there so I told him again(not shouting calmly) he stood up and started yelling .Hos dad took his hand and tried tolead him to bed so he kicked him in between the legs ! He them ran to the other side of the room and I did shout at him .I got a heavy booklet launched at me it hit my arm and has left a mark .
He then went upstairs and threw a footspa down stairs which broke.
He is 11 and doing very well at school and home .

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I'm not sure I can offer advice, but I sympathise.

My DS(7) threw a major tantrum yesterday as the computer didn't load up properly before his time was up...........

I was VERY tired, and when he started ranting, I told him to go up to his room. He refused and stood firm - he was solid as a rock. It made me realise that he is soon going to be physically stronger than me and if he refuses to do something......

We sorted it all out later when we had both calmed down - how are you getting on now?

Poor you CWWM Ds has AS and ADHD and can be very violent and has attacked me many times. It is really horrible {{{hugs}}}

has something happened, maybe a school or with his friends, that has maybe made him react like that if he's usually not like it?

I think your reaction needs to be one of absolute zero tolerance - he has behaved appallingly, regardless of what may or may not be affecting his behaviour. If you let this go, you're effectively telling him that violence in the home is just fine.

Work out a damn good punishment - take the plug off the laptop/PC, put the DS in the care of a trusted friend (i.e outside the home) for a week, no pocket money, grounding - whatever's going to have the most effect.

My sympathies - had this a couple of times with my DD. It's grim- but how you handle it now will make a real difference to whether or not it ever happens again.

ok, well, firstly I would try and find out if something is going on that has triggered it.

if it's very out of character then I would def be wondering if something has happened at school that has left him upset/worried.

so, have a chat, see what he says.

I would however tell him that as he cannot be trusted to listen to you, and not to use the DS when requested that you will be putting it away for x amount of time as this type of behaviour over it will not be tolerated.

I agree, Hassled. DS is banned from any computer / DS all week after his outburst, and he wasn't actually violent!

We always use loss of PS2 time too. It is just about the only consequence that ds is pretty much guarenteed to respond to.

Thanks . I went up and told him how angry I was and that it would not be tolerated .
He has been told he will not go on the ds or playstation until I say so and he will be very lucky if he gets to go to a football match with his Dad he is looking forward to and I have cancelled a sleepover which was planned for Friday.
AFAIK nothing has happened at school he has been chatting away about his friends and some merit points he got today .
I know it sounds tough what I have done but I can not tolerate this he did this in front of his sisters and I am PG so I can not allow him to keep doing this .
He is very strong and has a bad temper at times ,I have just sat and sobbed because it shook me up so much.

Good for you - you need to be tough. Violence is never acceptable.