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3 year old wanders away in carparks...

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bonnycat · 03/12/2008 13:58

I have a 3 year old and also a 12 month old who is going through that stage of going rigid when i try to put him in his carseat,meanwhile my 3 year old wanders away round the back of the car where ever she feels like it.She will not stand still by me however i try to cajole or persuade her and its really upsetting me as its so dangerous.My 12 month old needs to go in first as he is not walking yet so i cant set him down while i strap the 3 year old in.
Any ideas/tips would be greatly appreciated...

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TheGarishlyTwinkleyMadHouse · 03/12/2008 13:59

Leave the one year old in the buggy or in the the shopping trolley and put the three year old in first.

jumpingbeans · 03/12/2008 13:59

make the 3year old get in the and wait in the car while you strap the lo in

MadreInglese · 03/12/2008 14:00

Assume your 1yo is in a buggy? Leave him strapped in that while you put your 3yo in the car first.

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Lemontart · 03/12/2008 14:01

If you have carried the little one and have nowhere safe to put him down (ie no buggy or trolley) then there is one option. I used to get the eldest to get in the car and close her door, go round the otherside and strap the youngest in, shut that door. Then go back round and strap in the older child. A car with child locks with stop them escaping and keep them both safe.

It is hard but it is better than asking a 3 yrold to wait patiently in a dangerous place

morningpaper · 03/12/2008 14:01

bozza · 03/12/2008 14:03

I would get them both in at the same time at the baby's side and make the 3yo climb across. Then sort out the baby and then go round and fasten up 3yo.

morningpaper · 03/12/2008 14:06

what bozza said

or just explain to the three year-old WHY she mustn't wander off

I would tell mine to put one hand on the car and NOT TO REMOVE IT (and explain why)

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bonnycat · 03/12/2008 14:07

Obviously if im out with the buggy its not a problem but i often pop in and out of places,playgroup,toddlers,the doctors etc without the buggy.

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morningpaper · 03/12/2008 14:07

chivvy the three year-old in first

snowleopard · 03/12/2008 14:07

I recently caught hold of what looked like an 18mo-2yo boy who was zooming around dangerously while his dad tried to strap in the baby... he could easily have been hurt. Just put the older one in the car first, even if they're not strapped in yet - it's better having them clambering around the seats than wandering around the car park.

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bonnycat · 03/12/2008 14:10

Thankyou Lemontart and Bozza i will try that,its difficult as both seats are isofix and huge so they are very high and there is not much room but as you say its better than her running around the carpark.

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morningpaper · 03/12/2008 14:10

or open your driver's door and let her in that way - she can climb between the two front seats? Or just sit there pretending to drive ...

ChopsTheDuck · 03/12/2008 14:12

your 3 year old should be able to get in the car herself. My three year olds get in and do their old belts. My ds1 couldn't though at that age and the rule was that he had to be touching the car while I got the twins in. Wasn't allowed to let go of the car. Giving him soemthing proactive to do rather than saying Don't run off, seemed to work.

TinySocks · 03/12/2008 14:13

my DS1 is much better now, but up until a couple of months ago I would always leave DS2 in the pushchair, put DS1 in his car seat and then DS2.

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bonnycat · 03/12/2008 14:25

Chopstheduck my 3 year old weighs 22 lbs and is tiny-she will probably be about 12 before she can get in by herself.
I have tried asking her to touch the car or my leg and make it into a bit f a game for her but that doesnt work,i also tried telling her what might happen but she doesnt really have any concept of that-she is only just 3.Iwill def try putting her in first so at least she is safe in the car then strapping her in after the baby is in.

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