trained for wees and dry at night but will not poo on potty or toilet - advice or tips gratefully received!

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DS1 is 2.11 and has just been potty trained, now uses big toilet, and has great control. Within a week of being dry in the day he was also dry at night which I was not expecting. However he is still in pull ups as he refuses to do a poo on the toilet or tell me when he needs one. Does it take longer to be clean or is there something I am missing???

poos seems to be big problem for some reason my son is 3.6 and will not poo on toilet and my cousins little girl was nearly 5 before she would

also a few threads not so long ago with many children the same im starting the whole poos like to swim and they cannot swim in nappies still not on the topilet yet but he does say he wants to send it swimming just ssems to freak him out to have to do it but i will keep trying as long as his not holding it as i prefer him to go in pullup as he gets so constipated other wise and thats not nice at all for them

good luck though

If you're missing something, so are we. Except DS won't wear a pullup either. So poos in pants. Like bubblagirl I think avoiding constipation if at all possible is the best thing - everything else can happen in it's own time.

We had this with ds....I sat with him in the bathroom with books and stickers and toys...the first poo took nearly an hour, and many tears, and at some points physically holding him there. Distraction is the key...and when they finally do it....listening to the 'plop' lots of praise, and telling him that 'mr poo' is off on holiday??!! Seemed to work...well so far....still takes about 20 mins and a few tears...lots of cuddles...
Anyone remember Mr Hanky the Christmas Poo? Must see if I can dig a pic out of google

do you think i should put him in pants regardless?

in day time i will put my ds in pants regardless and he will ask for nappy if needing poo i will gently approach the toilet idea but if he becomes distressed i put a nappy on until done

my ds is still in anppies at night and quite often will have done a poo first thing while nappy still on

but i have had it where he holds it and holds it and has become so constipated it was heartbreaking that i will let him poo in anappy we then flush it down the toilet sendimng it swimming he flushes and waves

hope fully it wont feel so negative soon and he will eventually go on the toilet but for now if he poos on the floor or in pants etc i dont make a fuss i just sit him on toilet and say well done for trying

I've just joined Mumsnet for this exact reason and am so glad that we're not the only ones having this problem. My daughter's 3 in a fortnight and has been dry both day and night for 6 months but refuses to tell us when she needs a poo and just does it in her pants. We've tried sticker charts, presents and recently bribery with chocolate but nothing makes any difference. Some friends advised me to leave her in dirty pants but she doesn't mind that either! I just keep saying to myself that eventually she'll get there. Will try the swimming thing though!

hi skip76 - it's a pain isn't it - we are currently on day 3 of no poos as well so I think he is now holding them in. Have decided to put him in pants full time and hope he will get it eventually

Hi, just to say you're not alone with this problem. My DD1 (2.5) became dry day and night very quickly, but she just hasn't grasped the concept of putting poos anywhere other than her pants! We don't use nappies at all now - it's messy. She even asks for a 'treat' after she's had a poo - no matter how much I explain she shows no inclination of progressing..

I'm wondering how to tackle it too - perhaps it will all just fall into place!

Took 2 of mine longer to do a poo on toilet. Humour the nappy thing for a while and then try to wean him off. For ds this was a problem which ended in constipation and tears which I would never like to repeat. With dd, a bit of gentle persuasion and praise was all she needed. They are all different and you need to go with your instinct and the signs your ds is giving you.