Should I or shouldn't I.....you decide!

[Thankyouandgoodnight]

We have 2 under 2

BF 4 month old wakes on average at 10:30, 12:30, 2:30, 5.30 and is then up for the day.

DH has been giving me a lie in most weekends apart from the odd morning by taking baby when he wakes and the toddler and returning baby an hour later when he's ready for another sleep (thus waking me up again which is unavoidable).

DH insists on going to bed at midnight at the weekends watching TV and drinking beer. I got to bed around 10pm to have some attempt at coping with the night.

DH is getting less gracious about getting up in the morning so I'm thinking I should give him a lie in tomorrow regardless of how the night goes. There will be no chance of that extra hour in the morning until next weekend. I will have to go to bed at 9:30pm tonight as I'm shattered and will absolutely not cope tomorrow as it is.

Cast your vote here....

No Fing Way! Get your lie in. When he's been up at 10:30, 12:30, 2:30, 5.30 and he's then spent the day with a baby and a toddler, then* he can have a lie-in. I'm fuming that you're even considering it. He can be as ungracious as he likes - he can stew in it.

Hmm. He knows the score with wakings etc, yet still goes up late every night. I say tough personally. DH and i are in the same boat, and we both have had to adjust what we do. Plus, you are breastfeeding, which is exhausting in itself.

If he doesn't like getting up so early, he'll have to start going to bed early a few nights a week.

I say stuff him! (In a nice-ish way!)

or if you're feeling diplomatic agree on one morning a week where you get up. You've got my sympathies anyway- so glad we're past breastfeeding now. Just silly early mornings here instead.

He's probably had 3 lie-ins in the 4 months and I'm always up and on full time childcare monday to friday and then doing the bulk of meals and organising at weekends etc. I don't get any time off at all. To be fair, I could 'request' some time and he would be fine with it I'm sure. I just feel guilty because I know it's hard work and so would rather do it myself than impose it on someone else and then listen to them huff and puff.

I agree on the going to bed too late thing but he's having a bit of a midlife crisis too and feels like his life has stopped (yes yes I know) but I would love 3 DCs and so am keen to not make life toooooo difficult for him as he's currently thinking he wants to stop with two.

Bit late for it now, but we agree it in advance.Usually I'll say, 'you lie in on Saturday, I'll get up with the kids' (knowing he'll be taking the boys to footy at 10 ). Then I take the Sunday one(and prompt older DCs the night before with reminders of 'tea, toast and the papers in bed for Mummy' )

his choice to go to bed at midnight

so, i think you need to have your lie in

My point is, make the offer. Hopefully he won't take it for granted.

If he chooses to go to bed late, that's his look out. But make sure you get your turn.

Before the baby, we used to take turns. He would lie in on a saturday and me on a sunday. Should it be different now for the time being bearing in mind how the nights are currently, or not.

You should have the vast majority of lie-ins undoubtedly.

However, once in a while let him have it, with the proviso that you go back to bed with the baby. He can take DC1 out and leave you in peace.

As far as tomorrow goes, it depends on how strong you feel tonight. Your OP suggests tomorrow is not the day to be getting up early, so you could suggest you sleep in tomorrow and next week its his turn?

But you are probably in bed by now and not reading this