Tinsel and Tantrums- The NEW (and festive) 2 or more kids under 3 thread!

[SpookyGrrrl]

Here we are girls!

Feel free to join us if you have 2 or more kids under 3yrs old- we won't bite

For any potential newbies, I have 2 boys, the oldest is 2 yr 5mths, and the youngest is 13mths.

we came home by 10.10pm And i stuck to drinking a few halves, so i feel fine this morning too. One of my friends has 2 kids herself, so when we made our apologies and left early, she totally understood.

Step MIL wants to take DS1 away next Saturday morning until Sunday afternoon to some agricultural tractor thing, which he'll love. And it'll be far less hectic for us next weekend with just one rampaging child, so that's something to look forward to.

Going to stock up on healthy food today. And i woke up in the middle of the night fancying stuffed peppers How bizarre! I am 4 days late on my period....!! Let's hope not, eh?

Morning,

Sorry I've been awol again!!!!

Been struggling a lot with BF so not been about as much as I would like to be.

I've been up since 4. DS2 woke up to be fed and then DS1 woke up too. After 45 minutes of him getting out of bed and me putting him back in, I gave in and put him in our bed. But he still didn't go to sleep. So DH and DS2 are upstairs asleep and we're down here.

Fingers crossed for you, Grrrl. Here's hoping that you don't have to sue the NHS for the most unsuccessful snip in history .

Morning, Ladies.

Welcome back, Kayzr and [yawn]

Just a quickie, I feel sick with tiredness from having to pack to go away for 5 days!!! We're off to Centerparcs tomorrow, and as usual, I have packed everything all four of us need, except DH's clothes which he managed to do by himself . It's friggin exhausting! And I am one of those who likes the house clean and tidy to come home to, so just been so busy all day, and now I have to watch a double bill of LOST!!!!

How do disorganised people cope? How do people with more kids cope? How do disorganised people with more kids cope??

chaotica Hope the funeral goes as well as can be expected. I'll be thinking of you. (((hugs))).

See you all next weekend.

LM xxx

yes Chaotica, hope funeral is as best as can be expected. My real MIL had a humanist funeral, and in a weird way, it was lovely.

Looks like i'm getting my period today anyway. And on some TINY, STUPID level, i feel sad!

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Hi Knickers

HI everyone, i have been reading and not managing to keep up but had to pop in to say:

Chaotica - all the best for the funeral and generally. So sad about your mum & you having to cope with so much
Remember after the funeral/busytime it may hit you harder so be prepared for some down days (get dh prepared) - sorry if that's pessimistic....

Grrl - aww poor tiny bit that's sad but mostly lol

sorry everyone else - i'll never get round to posting at all if i try and reply to you all. I have been reading so trying to keep up!

Henry had his 1st birthday last week - mostly just had Tom's friends round he got some books from Christmas, some clothes from the sales & a helium balloon! Learnt from Tom's not to worry too much about a big fuss (money in the bank account instead.)

He is crawling lots, cruising lots, not ready for walking yet but soon hopefully.

Tom is fine too - no sign of potty training, whatsoever (2.8yrs). Lots of chat, learning new things all the time.

Both of them sleeping pretty well now (in the same room since Christmas) though H has got me up at 5.10 today

Ah well, nursery & work later so my 'day off'

Happy Monday morning

Welcome knickers and Hi everyone.

Chaotica ((((hugs)))

Having a better week altho Isacc has become suddenly more mobile and is now trying to pull himself up but keeps going down like a ton of bricks poor thing! I'm not sure he is as strong as he is heavy if that makes any sense? Anyway he will be full of bruises the way he is going. He is desparate to walk and seems very determined so I think he will be walking quicker than Melissa who was 20 months.

I hope so as my back is very bad and cant quite seem to rest it enough for it to recover. I also must have a virus as had a sore throat for about 6 weeks that I cant get rid of so feeling a bit rubbish(sorry moan over)

Joel my older son seems much better thanks and so hope we get some testing done soon.

Off for a lie on the floor with Isaac while he crawls over me for some climbing experience.

Evening, Ladies

Thanks for all the hugs and good wishes. And JKS (hello and good to see you're around!) - I think you're right about it being worse after the funeral. That was the easy bit in some ways. We had a humanist one too Grrrl - it was quite positive.

Now I'm shouty mummy (worse than usual) and all over the place - completely failing to have enough patience to deal with 2 under 3. Doesn't help that the DCs are picking up on it and whinging and crying more than usual... Grrrr...

Glad your DS is getting better, Tracyface. Hope you're feeling better.

And hello Knickers and welcome I don't always moan this much.

Hello ladies!!

Will be thinking of you chaotica at the funeral. Maybe it is better if th DCs are not there, so you can just indulge in saying your own goodbyes

Tracey love that you are going to lay on the floor to give Isaac something to climb - I know exactly what you mean. Izzy is at the walking with help stage/with her shopping trolley babywalker and she occasionally stands still without any support for a few seconds. Freya was 18 months when I classed her as a good walker, think Izzy may be quicker. But then Freya was chatting away at 18 months, so who knows if Izzy will get the talking or the walking first?

grrrl the house seems to coming along nicely and lol at your tiny sadness at not being pregnant. I know exactly how you feel. I have been trying even harder to convince DH to have the snip, and even got a few of his friends involved (not in the technical side, more in the support side)

Welcome knickers

The weekend away was lovely Had a really excellent time. Izzy was fine after all my worrying.

They were here the other day though, and freya was throwing her toys (bearing in mind I was sat on the floor, with Izzy right there too) and I told her to stop, or I would put her on the naughty mat. So, she continued with renewed force, and so I did put her on the naughty mat. She protested for about - oh 3 seconds and then served her two minutes. After which, she aplogies, we kissed and she told me she loved me, I told her I loved her. But mum decided I acted irrationally and unreasonbly and had decided not to talk to me. I am very . Does she wonder how Freya ended up to well behaved? Does she think it was luck and not implementing diciplinary measures??

Anyway, enough about that....

All else fine, girls have colds, I am hungry.

xx

Hello all!

Chaotica hope you are mananging ok x

Jewels nice to hear you had a nice weekend away and the girls enjoyed it.

We are having a tiring week as Isaac is just really grumpy and I cant decide why. I was thinking teething or maybe the fact that I have changed onto cows milk and its not agreeing with him? He isnt sick and his poo (sorry tmi)seems ok. He isnt drinking as much and only manages 5oz bottles rather than his usual 8oz. Or maybe its just he is frustrated because he cant walk and want to be chasing Melissa.

We have also had a few throwing incidents by Melissa which I am blaming on preschool because she hasnt done it before. There seem to be a few good and bad things she has picked up from being there. She is getting better at going and altho she is unhappy when she first goes in she stops really quickly and is now joining in with everything so I am glad I made the descision to send her at such an early age. ( can you tell im still feeling guilty)

My two both have colds so we are all very snotty here and lots of wiping but I have taught Melissa to wipe Isaac when she does her own so thats great! (but not using the same tissue, but they are probably the same germs anyway[sceptical])

We have some (childless)friends coming to stay for the weekend so I have got to clean the house properly for a change .....boring.
Hope you all have a nice weekend.x

Hi All

Up again with DS and trying to decide what to do while DP and DD have a lie in [life is unfair emoticon] DS has brought me his coat and shoes, so I guess we're going out...

Colds here too. I like the idea of teaching the DCs to wipe each others noses

at your mum, Jewels. You (or we) just can't win (we get funny looks from DP's mum when we don't discipline for tiny things).

Hello! .

Centerparcs was good, if not exhausting. No-one tells you when you have kids that holidays are actually sometimes harder work than being at home do they? (or is that just me?!). DD2 into 'everything' and wrecking the villa . DD1 seemed to be homesick [Awww!] and was much more whingy than normal. We cooked every night to save money and calories, so it was home from home really. Nice to not have the ironing, phone ringing, etc etc.

jewels at your mum and the discipline issue! My MIL can be a bit like that, and I quote....."I know you two have your 'rules' but let her have some more chocolate and stay up til 9pm"......
My advice, FWIW, is stick to your guns and do what you are doing and what works for you. We do the naughty step....it seems to work.

Can I just ask, my DD1 is 3 in May, and DD2 9 mths. DD1 has never been jealous, but just recently, has started to be a bit rough towards DD2, pushing her over and generally being a bit rough, IYSWIM. My Mum said sometimes when the second one gets to the age where they start playing with their toys that older child can then get jealous, as up til that point it wasn't an issue. Has anyone else found this?

DD1 is normally very good, but even if I sternly ask her to stop and threaten no charlie and lola DVD (probably more of a loss to me than her!!) she just looks me right in the eye and does it....insolent little madam!!! Any advice??

I go back to work tomorrow, after nearly a year off. Feeling a bit nervous and worried I will have forgotten everything!! I have been qulaified nearly 13 years but it still daunts me having to see a patient tomorrow!!!! EEEk! Wish me luck!!

I've just eaten half a big bag of Doritos with lime [yummy] to help calm my nerves!!

And it's gonna bloody snow!!

Grrrl HOw's the house?

chaotica HOw's things? I am ofte shouty mummy, at least you have a reason to be like that. Hope you are doing OK. Thinking about you lots.

LM xx

Hiya everyone.

Can I join? I have a DS who is 23 months and a DD who is 4 months. I also have a DS who is 8.

At the moment I am really struggling! It just seems constant, and i doesnt help that my DS hasnt taken very well to his sister, and he also has a speech delay, so I have constant crying all day, and if its not one, its the other!

Funny first day back at work. I live 5 mins walk from hospital I work at, but was told to go to different hospital 20 min drive away (in non-rush hour and with no snow!) for training, at 8:30am. So I duelly arrived, even though I hate driving in the snow, and was told training cancelled. So I then drove home, parked at home and walked to work, where all the patients had been cancelled cos of the snow, and I ended up only staying til 2pm (instead of 5pm) and I was the last person to leave, the rest of them bogged off at midday!!! They all thought it was hilarious that I wanted to stay! (I was enjoying my child-free time, and having a laugh with adults again!)

Welcome Frasersmum. It's bloody hard work isn't it? I find things got much easier when DD2 got to 6 months.

Hi All, and welcome Frasersmum I have DD 2.9 and DS 16m.

LM74 - what a strange first day back. I had a 100 mile round trip for two hours work (it would have been more, but I'd never have made it home). And then two thirds of the students I was teaching didn't turn up and they all live five minutes walk away.

The snow is lovely though when I wasn't sliding around trying to take the car to the CM's (DD and DS loved it too). Sad that it doesn't happen more often (might even help this country get more organised).

LM74 - I am of your holiday, even though I now recognise that holidays are just more work. They're slightly different work though, so fun anyway...

I spend a good chunk of each day negotiating between the DCs, although they're pretty good really. It didn't start till DS was able to grab things, or get what he wanted and where he wanted... But now, the screaming tantrums we get...

And often it's because he doesn't understand what's going on, or he can't ask for something (or he can't have it if he can ask or get it himself). It's bad enough at 16m when DS gets frustrated. It must be hard Frasersmum when this stage carries on. (My nephew didn't talk till 2.3ish and his tantrums were something to behold.)

Hi Frasermum

I have 2 DSs (2.8 & 1) - ds2 is just starting to desperately want to be near his brother and play with his toys. so the arguments/fights/shoving is starting....

ds2 normally sleeps till 7.30.
ds1 woke in the night sobbing, bad dream i guess, brought him in with me (dh away, sod's law) and he slept.
ds2 woke at....5.50 and woke me and ds1.
great.

i slept badly anyway as ds1 kept touching me - making sure i was there? anyway need a decent night tonight. may even see if ds1 will let me doze on the sofa while ds2 naps later...

Hello, may I join?

I have two DSs 21 months and 6 months (also have two DDs 12 and 8) but the two littlest are making life very "interesting" at the moment.

DS2 still bf and having at least one feed a night and DS1 teething so wakes up more often than not and ends up having a bottle. If he doesn't he gets up at 6 (as in the morning!).

No jealousy here (apart from DD2!) DS1 loves DS2 to bits, although DS2 obvioulsy doesn't touch any of his stuff yet

Will be going back to work in April unless lucky enough to get a different jopb by then, but would probably have to then go back sooner.

And, woohoo - we get a snow day today so I have no school run

Hi newbies, will catch up properly later.

House is still a shambles, but getting there. They claim they'll be finished tomorrow, but i'm not convinced, and the new carpet is booked for Thursday morning.

The boiler is also close to being knackered It's blardy freezing, but luckily DH knows someone through work who's coming to service it today for nothing.

Catch up properly soon

Thanks for all the welcomes.

Well all the snow has meant being stuck in the house which isnt much fun as we do like to get out. Hvae to go grocery shopping later which I usually put off until we are desperate as its such a chore!

DS won't thank me in later years - he's been out in DD's old wellies as he doesn't have any of his own [evil ] - not that they're too girly (they just have strawberries all over...). But he only just started to walk so he doesn't have any of his own and it's better than keeping him in the buggy. (Doesn't help that CM put him in dd's hat as well yesterday.)

Hello ladies

Welcome Frasersmum and SKY

All quiet here, girls have gotten rid of their colds, have been enjoying the snow - mum and dad are not at work this week so they have been coming over with supplies, and there with helping hands when we do go out. Having a rather enjoyable time actually. Although, because of my mum's adverse reaction to my naughy mat, I am finding it hard to implement any disipline whilst my mum is there - at the risk of starting another arguement. But, I cannot amandon my method that is tried and tested, and works wonderfully for me. She will just have to get used to it!

DH is off for the next two weeks from monday, so have been thinking of cheap exciting things for is to do. Funnily enough, I have not come up with hardly anything

Izzy is going through such a cute stage right now, always nuzzling us and pulling me down on the changing mat for hugs (where she tickes my face with her eyelashes) and you can see her little thought processes working and her thinking things. She has also leart how to get downstairs by herself (has been going up for a while) but the downward stair decent is so funny. She starts at the top of the stairs and crawls backwards, rouund the corner to the staircase (think a car reversing around a corner) and then proceeds to stick one leg out and have a feel for the stop, and then down she goes! I spend alot of my time sat on the stairs whilst she does up and the down stairs! Very enjoyable though

LM - I am having similar problems with Melissa at the moment being really defiant and looks me straight in the eyes when she is doing it.

She has taken to throwing things and smacking poor Isaac on the head. I am sure it is just a game to her but she is looking for a reaction and she usually gets it. Its like she is counting how many times she can do it before I can get him to her to stop her.
Obviously me shouting 'dont do it' is not working. And she even tells me 'naughty, naughty' while she is doing it the little minx!

Oops and there was me promising not to label my child as naughty - very damaging to her self esteem but even more damaging to Isaac's poor head!

Welcome Sky and Frasersmum. I have five children but Melissa is 23 months and Isaac is 11 months

Mine still have colds and are not enjoying the snow. Melissa hated it and Isaac could'nt move in it. Took a video of them so they can see how funny they looked.

Oh away skiing till sunday so Im stressed shouty mummy too this week. Trying not to moan

More snow . Although that probably means that playgroup is canceled and so is my sanity check for the day...

We will have to go and build a snowman instead. (DP seems have disappeared off to work, but I sort of expect him to reappear any minute...)

was playgroup clld? Our has still gone ahead, albeit with less kids!!