nearly three and not wanting to train, what would you do?

[kittywise]

Right dd3 (dc no5) is three next month. She has shown absolutely NO sign of wanting to potty train. All my others , so far were dry by now.
ds 3 (dc 6 ,19 months) is showing signs of being aware of his wee and poo.

These last few days I have simply taken her out of nappies. She has made it clear that she wants to keep wearing them saying she wants to keep on playing.

In these last three days she has not once used the toilet or potty but has weed an pooed in her clothes and on the floor.

Now, I do not want her to go back to nappies.

How long will it be before she at least attempts to use a potty.

What would you do? I do not want her to be one of these kids who goes to school in nappies.

I think given the choice she would simply move out of nappies into tenna lady pads .

Please, advice needed!!!!!!!!!!

There you are Kitty!

hmmm, not sure what you should do. A few days isn't long though maybe she will get the hang of it soon.

Hopefully some one will come along with some good ideas!

Maybe a spot of bribery?

Hi super, I'm here but not on Mn very much atm, life's got in the way!

I've tried bribery.

I guess I'll just have to keep going. She's got to get the idea soon. She hates it when she wets her clothes. At least today she left the room to wet her knickers.
A small step in the right direction

Hee hee, that is the problem with nappies, far too handy! She sounds like a very busy girl with absolutely no time to stop for toilet breaks
Once she realises that going to the loo is an easier choice than getting wet and uncomfortable and having to get changed she'll make the sensible choice I bet!

Good luck! (and bumping for any other experiences.)

No answer from me but I will watch with interest. My daughter wants to wear knickers some days - but hasn't been following through with acceptance of potty attempts.
One positive we have seen is that she is more likely to go to a public toilet than at home. The novelty helps.

Wasn't sure whether to post this or not but since you asked for opinions here's mine.

I would put her back in nappies - tbh I think you are being unfair on her for two reasons.

1. Some children do naturally take longer to train than others and it's not really fair to compare IMO. 2)You say she hates it when she wets in her clothes but she isn't ready to train so has no option but to do so which could be putting her off even more.

I have never heard of a child going to school in nappies - there is still plenty of time to train before then. My dd1 trained herself at 3.1 or 3.2 (can't remember exactly) - when she was ready it was a very quick process. She surprised me by waking up one morning and asking for pants and that was it really. I tried a month or so previously and she had no idea at all, she was either too busy to think about weeing etc or just had not developed enough to understand what the sensation of needing a wee soon was like. Maybe your DD3 is the same?

Good luck

Do you think she is ready but she is being lazy or stubborn? I as this because BabyDragon showed all the signs of being ready. She understood what it was all about, was excited about pants etc etc. Anyway, ahe appeared to be utterly clueless. She asked if I would fill her watering can up. I said that I would do it if she had a wee on the potty. she sighed, pulled down her trouser and pants, weed on the potty and then said "there you go, now fill up my watering can."

From that point on, I knew it was actually a matter of breaking her spirit (so to speak ) rather than actual potty training. She was trained within 3 days (2.7).

Personally, I'd put her back in nappies. Why are you trying to force her? She'll potty train in her own good time. Trying to push her will just make her upset and cause conflict.

FWIW I followed ds's lead and he trained at 3 and a few months (was inspired by seeing one of his friends having a 'garden wee').

Thank you all for your advice a and ideas. It's good to get a glimpse into others' experiences.

I had no idea how usual it was for a 3 year old to still be nappies, I suspected it wasn't the norm though.

Soupdragon, I think she is stubborn and lazy. She simply doesn't want to stop playing to have a wee. My just 7 year old dd1 is the same.

BUT we had a breakthrough today!!

She has been dry all day AND has used the potty!I I made a big, big fuss of her, of course.

It's only one day, I know, but at least we are moving in the right direction.

Hooray

Hooray indeed

wow, well done dd3!

More wees and poos in the potty and toilet today.

well nearly all the poo, apart from the turd I didn't see that was lying on the carpet and I trod in it and squelched it all over the floor just before going on school run this morning

Bare feet?

blegh, no thank christ!!!

[chortle]

kittywise, I feel your pain.
DS (3.3) is just about getting the hang of the potty now, after nearly two weeks of intense training (three other attempts throughout the year were utterly abortive!). We still have accidents most days - mainly when he's too distracted to think about his bladder or bowel functions but I'm figuring a 70%ish hot-rate ain't bad.
The following videos I found on youtube were great (especially if you've got a laptop so your dc can sit on the potty while watching). The cheese-factor is high (as is the reference to diapers as opposed to nappies, but, hey, it works!)
Potty Power: Big Kids
Potty Power: No More Diapers
Potty Power: Proud to Wear My Underwear

Thanks aphrodite!!

Well three days now and no accidents.

Unfortunately she now also refuses to wear them at night and she is certainly not ready for that!!