Tips please.... what is the best ways to deal with a 17 month old and temper tantrums?

[spookycharlotte121]

ds has started having temper tantrums when he cant have his own way or if something frustrates him. Admittedly 95% of theses are when he is tired so are kindof understandable but some arnt. He cant get quite violent when he has them slamming his head into the floor or furniture. he screams and goes purple in the face and will also attempt to take it out on dd who is only 5 months old and doesnt appreciate being stamped on.
Should I ignore him.... try and calm him down.... restrain him.... Im not sure which is the best approach.
Never really dealt with temper tantrums before so any advice would be great! Thanks.

Well, with ds who is the same age, I normally remove him from whatever is frustrating him and sit down while he rolls around and yells. And fairly quickly he picks himself up and gets on with whatever he was doing. Sometimes he carries on wailing a bit while checking to see if I'm paying him attention (I'm not).

But he's a funny little thing - he's nothing like as fiery as his sister, and that approach would never have worked for her. That required full on tantrum management - restraining, distracting, removing, singing, etc.

Not sure if this is the best way but DS is 14 mths old and been havin tantrums since his 1st birthday. We just move him to a safe place (if needed) and then walk away from him, give him no attention, totally egnore him and eventually he stops and comes to find us when he's finished. We tryed to calm him down but it just makes him worse so leaving him is the best way at the moment.

He also does the blue face screaming while throwing, hitting floor etc.

Good luck.

What is he having tantrums about?

I started a very similar post to this yesterday in the behaviour section. DS is nearly 19 months and going through exactly the same. Sick of the battles. I'll check back if you're around tomorrow and maybe we can exchange tips!

Safe place and ignoring works here too.

Agree with the safe place and ignore technique. My ds has become a head buter the last few weeks so when he tries to head butt me or dh we just put him on a cushion on the floor, he usually head butts that and we ignore him til he's finished and then wait a minute then praise him for calming down and carry on as normal.